when relationships are vulnerable, people turn to others.
in intimate and married relations, for any partner who is doing this, for what ever reason, especially valid reason such as infidelity on the part of the other partner or spouse, this can become a risk itself.
how would you define boundaries, for yourself, for your friend is s/he is indulging in this, when it is tempting to someone you care about and at the same time, you don’t want to see them unhappy?
share your thoughts on this very sensitive issue, if you like.
best,
Dushwari
Re: TURNING to others
i dont think ive ever confided in anyone else with my marital problems (not that I have any).. but lets say you have a tid-fit with your spouse.. i wouldn't go discuss that with anyone...
the way I see it, If i were having a huffy puffy session with my hubby (or anyone else), i'd be pretty angry at that time... so if I went and discussed my hubby with someone else at that point, i really wouldn't have anything sugary to say.. and that may imply to the next person that my hubby isn't a nice person.. yet 5-10 min later, me and hubby might be best friends again and i would have forgotten what I had said... but the next person is still thinking... "what a nasty hubby"
so no, i wouldn't want anyone else to get some false impresison about hubster just cus i was upset or watever... hence i wouldnt ever discuss marital issues with others...
Re: TURNING to others
thanks sadzzz, for your comments and opinion.
anyone else?