Turn Off's for Men

Lifestyle Relationships
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When I write in caps, I am generally yelling.

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IMHO, moderate amount of shyness is not turn off.

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Although I am a girl my advice might not apply completely but this is what I have observed in general from my brothers and otherwise:

most guys want a girl who doesnt require them to converse so much. guys dont appreciate being asked "what are you thinking now?" "how are u feeling etc etc"

and I think that people in general like to be taken care of

being respectful of the boundaries they set and the pace they like to keep is a plus

and no guy will like any backtalk abt his family, no matter how messed up it may be

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I find it quite amusing that more than 90% of the advice is coming from the ladies. You lot do know it all don't you?

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more the 90 % of GS is female

The males are too busy playing xbox

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In my view:

Don’t ask too many questions. They like keeping things to themselves. Sharing is more of a girlish need. Keep a separate girlie social circle for all that talking. This talking also includes gossips & backbiting; they aren’t a fan of it either.

**Make them feel needed. **Give them the security of the relation. A guy can never trust a girl who has a lot of guy friends & is so comfortable with them that he reaches an insecure stage. It should be a normal distance with them.

Be family oriented - If you show him you are very independent & all you do is hang around with friends,shop all the time, go to cinemas/restaurants all the time .. they feel they wouldn’t be cared for.

Don’t whine too much. Boys just want peace of mind esp cuz they are kind of tired from their work, which they take as war field. Relax them so much that they keep coming back to you automatically. If you have a long list of complaints, they’d start retreating.

**Don’t demand excessively **- There should be a limit to how much you demand; don’t be so demanding that he runs away finding a safe spot some where else. Specially stop acting that materialistic. I have so far never asked my husband any material thing & I’m pretty happy with it. He does what ever he wants out of will & those little unexpected things give THAT special feeling, automatically.

**Don’t be too clingy & desperate: **We all have that need to cling, cuddle, chipkofy .. limit it! Guys need space, they need their own time, they don’t like so much of clinging. Let them be when they want to .. !

Care for him: If you’re living with him make him food, press his clothes, massage him - honestly! its no big deal. If you’re not living with him, understand the pains he goes through working all day & struggling with things.

**Never humiliate him: **You lose your own trust & respect if you do that. No matter if you dislike some of his things, there are better ways of saying them. If you’re directly humiliating & that too in front of some one else you are bound to lose your trust. Guys like it when you boost their ego instead of hurting it. So its best not to pin point weakness, if you have to put them politely

Avoid family politics: As much as you can, avoid discussing politics & the family melodramas that go on between you & the in-laws. They want a peaceful environment at home so provide that.

There is a lot more but I’m tired of typing for now .. :bummer:

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Xbox/ps3 don't pms, don't demand stuff, don't throw hissy fits when men forget certain meaningless dates. If only I could sleep with my ps3 and she could fix me a nice sammich afterwards. Sigh.

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And for the gazillionth time ladies, ONLINE MULTIPLAYER GAMES CAN'T BE PAUSED. JEEEZUS. So whatever it is you want to talk about, can you just keep it to yourself until the server restarts, be a sweetheart and stay in the kitchen, sammiches don't make themselves now, do they?

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I feel for you.
Don't bother asking the fools in here, they don't know what they want and they seem to be contradicting themselves.
If what they essentially want is another mother to mollycoddle them and sex on a tap, there's mail order brides for that.

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Dependency is one of the biggest turn offs for me - I want my women to be independent !

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LmaO........ all the women giving advice on how men think............. naaice!!

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so apparently you should be a doormat :D
good luck with that.

If you can't find a good rishta why not go for another race?

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PCG :hayaa: like x100

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ya if desi men are so messed up, why not white guys, or even black? arabs, indonesians etc. whoever is MAN enough

just wondering

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**
You mean like guys like you who've never even had a girlfriend giving relationship advice??**

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Err cos 90% of the active posters are actually female..

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I think the problem is that 0% of those 90% are males.

So their advice about men is really flawed.
Women should not listen to other women when it comes to advice on men.
True story.

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:P

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NOMI, you NEVER had a girlfriend?!

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honestly guys, you people make PMS sound as an out of blown proportion, dangerous, quarantine-able psychiatric disease. Geez, it’s highly highly overrated. No women don’t get hormonal all the time and don’t get teary, sniffy, rondu either just coz they are PMSing.

So quit blaming PMS or some uber maniac womanly hormones for your own weaknesses, eg maybe actually considering that you did something wrong enough to hurt her or cause this. hmmphh :naraz:

goes back to her :chai: