Tum vs Aap

[Deeba1234]

Re: Tum vs Aap

@KKF

when it comes to Allah [God] the word ‘TU’ is often used to show closeness and love.

generally, “AAP” is used to elders and people who aren’t close to you while ‘Tum’ [intermediary] is used for friends and to people who are close to you…it shows 'closeness…the word ‘TU’ is often used as a derogatory word.

aap khaayeNge - respect
tum khaaoge = friendly
tu khaayegaa = derogatory

So the Bengali tui is like* tu* but is used by kids in a way which isn’t necessarily derogatory..

I think Bengalis are probably less formal than Pakistanis.. I rarely come across aap on that side of my family.. Some of us also address our young aunts and uncles by their first names, something considered pretty rude in Pakistan but acceptable and common in some other Muslim societies..