i have been told several times thru out my life by my cousins and friends and aunts/uncles, grandparents and recently workmates that “irem tum boht seedhi ho” or “boht bholi ho” or “boht saada/simple ho”
my older brother is always told the same thing that he is very “seedha”. he is basically the type who would NEVER ever be selfish with anyone. i mean he would never ever ever take advantage of anyone for his own benefit but he would be okay with incurring loss for others. and he has a very merciful heart. mashallah.
hmmm
well i used to take this “seedhi” thing as a compliment coz i thought maybe it meant that these people perceived me as being honest and truthful and non-conniving?
today our tailor whos been our family tailor for many yrs was telling me in the presence of my mom as well that “aap boht seedhi haen insaan ko itna seedha nai hona chahiye”
and its been on my mind since then. coz i mean i’m 23, i’m not a kid. why the heck should ppl have this impression of me? part of me is like yeah its cool but the other part of me is like is this a hidden way to say i’m dumb or easily fooled?
i dont know
i am wondering if this is really a positive thing. what do ppl mean when they say that? something like “you’re dumb” … ?
i want to be worldly wise and i think i am. i mean I don’t think i’m dumb. i infact perceive myself to be quite challak and not so seedhi/masoom or whatever and only i and Allah know what’s in my heart.
being seedhi doesnt mean ur dumb woman! it means your simple, theres nowt wrong in having such a simple view with certain things in life. You should be thankful for who u are, most people would love to see things simply and not be so “wise-arsed” all the time. Based on some of your comments about certain issues in my opinion, i think ur sometimes naive in respects to certain issues, but generally i think ur quite sweet. Most of my sister in laws are from pak, and they are proper screwed up challak psychos! being seedhi is good, at least your not bitchy and foul mouthed
i think ur well funny, and ur definately not dumb.
Irem, the Urdu unfortunately, I am not familiar with, but I get the gist of what your saying.
I am 40 yrs old, I have had 2 husbands (dealt with the passing of one), 2 children, multiple jobs, moved to 5 different states on my own, juggle two cultures and religions in my house, been to college and graduated, work at a University, and a brown belt in Ju-jitzu.
People constantly come up to me and say "You look so innocent" and sometimes treat me that way. No matter where I am or what I do. My husband says he loves my face because it looks so innocent. My daughter looks like me and people say the same thing of her. She is beginning to hate it as well.
What can you do?
I used to be aggravated, but now I am proud of it. People can never guess my age, they always think I am in my 20's.
You will appreciate this when you are older, trust me.
They aren't saying your dumb, I think they are just admiring a part of you they wish they had.
Personally, from what I have read in your posts, you seem to be a very opinionated, very devote, and very intelligent woman. You aren't afraid to defend yourself and can back what you say up with more than just rhetoric. That is a lot more than a few people here.
minah thanks man seriously tho i feel like people are just telling me “you look dumb so please get a life” or something like that?
btw thanks for the compliments
and i dint know u have led such an eventful life thats pretty cool :k:
ashtray i’m not. and plz support ur claim/opinion with facts/arguments
SS whattttttttt yeh i know those words r from ur nick and custom title so what!!!
M_M i wish i had a simple view yaar but i dont, trust me i AM a proper scre*** up chlaak psycho and i am quite bit*** and foul mouthed u just havent seen me in action yet
khair…thanks for the compliments
Fayz i know im not. i mean i’m ok. its not just the DARZI. i find a lot of ppl saying it thats why its bothering the heck out of me kinda :halo:
so what?
nOtHiNg I gUeSs…Its a compliment in my eyes. I believe if seedhay saaday laugon kee kamee na hotee to zindagee itnee compliate na hotee aajkal. Reading you describing what seedha-saada-pan means to you made me feel I wasnt alone revelling in this idea to be the one myself
Shikra firstly i dont think i am THAT seedhi, maybe ppl use it as flatterry? desYon kee puraani aadat hae makhan laganay kee talking abt my darzi here.
secondly, aik mulaqaat se kuch nai pata chalta, u only met me for what, not even 2 hours? and i dont wear dupatta on my head all the time btw. and obviously i met u for the first time so i was acting extra polite and sweet which i am not
ashtray…ALL! thank u in advance
SS hmmm i dont think i am that seedhi to be honest. i am quite terhi in many ways abt u, i dont know u that much so cant say. and i dont think anyone is too seedhi/seedha but some ppl do look masoom by face or the way they talk and walk and carry themselves. i dont know if u or i fall in that category tho coz i havent seen u and i havent observed myself either
irem bibi, i think you should seriously consider doing something with your gift, being seedhi is such a difficult chore for some girls, me included. Use it to ur advantage, if u cant change it...i bet u can manipulate the hell out of some people.:D
seriously tho i feel like people are just telling me “you look dumb so please get a life” or something like that? 
thats pretty cool :k:
yeh i know those words r from ur nick and custom title so what!!! 
