Hello friends
I want to know how to cope up from depression when someone is ttc. I try to divert my mind but still everyday I get stressed by thinking about this. I know it’s not good my health will effect. Plz share some advice.
Any what will be ideal weight when ttc and how to gain weight in healthy way to conceive?
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how long have you been ttc?
as far as ideal weight, as long as you fall into healthy BMI,you’re fine. I have never heard of anything as ideal weight to get pregnant. Being too underweight or being obese can cause issues with fertility. if your bmi is less than 18, then you should try to gain some weight.
use this to calculate your BMI:
Calculate Your BMI - Standard BMI Calculator
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My suggestion would be to focus on your husband - enjoy being married and strengthen your relationship.
I know its hard not to get depressed - but the only way you will relax is when you are happy. So try to seek happiness between the two of you.
Go out together, plan trips, dinners, etc etc etc.
For now, make it all about you two…baby will come.
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We have been ttc for 6 years now and we have done every possible thing We can to conceive.
i felt hopeless as we don’t know what to do next.
what helped me was to accept it and be realistic .
To be a mother is not my maqsad e hayat anymore.
i am focussing on other things in my life, all the other blessings I have and as the previous poster said enjoying and strengthening my relationship with my husband.
Its ok if I don’t have a child, Alhumdulillah We are blessed to have so many other relations in our life so seek happiness through them.
THat doesn’t mean i have stopped praying.
I continuesly ask Allah for this blessing as don’t have any other dar to go.
I know it hurts and I also go through phases of sadness but remember Allah is with person who do sabar.
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My bmi is 19 point something. It has been 1 year and 3 months of marriage.yeah I tried alot to be happy but still can’t stop thinking about these.my husband is nice but he wish that Allah give us baby Ameen.and sometime people ask about this.
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Thanks alot. The escape I will pray for u:) actually I feel guilty that it is my fault or mistake.
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BMI 19 is okay, on the side of being skinny but i dont think that will affect fertility, mine has been around that too. have you tried seeing a doctor? what have they said?
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Do you have regular periods? Have you tried an ovulation predictor kit? Are you having sex around the right time of the month? Have both of you been to see a doctor and gotten checked out? What about a fertility specialist?
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Yeah Bella I see many girls who are slim but MASHALLAH they conceive easily.yup I went to dr she said all is fine. Then again I went to another Dr she also said I’m fine. But know I’m thinking to go again plz pray for me that everything will be fine INSHALLAH
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Cancerian you have been stressing about this since you got married. You need to relax and leave it on Allah. If the doc says everything is ok then give it time. Has your husband been tested? I hope Allah blesses you with naik aulad. Please stop obsessing over it and enjoy your self.
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How long have you been married? If all is fine and you have been married for less than an year, I would suggest not go to the doctor. Relax and enjoy your time with your husband. InshahAllah, it will happen.
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INSHALLAH. I’m in stress becoz my husband wants he didn’t said anything but I feel. It has been 1 year and 3 months of our marriage.
Thanks alot everyone:)
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And from where I can get ovulation predictor kit in khi?
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you should have your husband tested too, fertility can be due to a male problem as well. as other people said, timing is the most important thing. you need to have sex starting from a few days before ovulation up until 2 days after you ovulate. for most women with regular periods, ovulation occurs around 2 weeks before your period is due.
Im surprised people already started bugging you about this, you have only been married for a year! most people that I know wait for at least 2 years before planning to have a baby. try and relax, enjoy the time you have now with your husband.
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and don’t just assume your husband wants a child RIGHT NOW and is somehow disappointed/sad/mad at you, and put all this pressure on yourself. have you actually discussed this with him? as others have said, why don’t you just enjoy your marriage and your time together as just the two of you before you have children? the more you obsess over it, the less likely it will happen.
you can order ovulation predictor kits online.
otherwise, here are some ways to tell when you might be ovulating. Detecting ovulation | BabyCenter
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I wouldn’t get too worried yet. It has only been a little over a year of ttc.
If you are really concerned, why don’t you ask your doctor to refer you to a fertility clinic. They will put you and your husband through a series of tests in the beginning to check if there is a medical condition hindering your ability to get pregnant. Once the results are in, they devise a treatment plan appropriate for you as a couple.
Another way to avoid depression is through prayer. Allah is truly merciful and he will hear your prayers. InshAllah you will conceive soon. I hope you have a healthy baby very soon InshAllah. I will pray for you.
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Ameen. JAZAKALLAH for dua 
yeah he said many times that Allah give us child.he also said its all depend on Allah when Allah bless us. But still I need support from him he just keep quite when I told about menstrual cramps etc.he has quite reserve nature I tried but still I can’t share my fears etc .
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Cancerian it will happen for you In sha Allah. Give yourself a break. Try to use this time to develop a relationship with your husband.
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INSHALLAH Ameen. JAZAKALLAH everyone :).thanks hmmna:)
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I think at some point everyone wants a child. But don’t put pressure on yourself to have one as soon as possible. If its just been a year or so then don’t stress.
Two of my sisters had kids 2-3 years after marriage…both have 2 kids each now Mashallah.
This is your honeymood period - enjoy karo aur baqi Allah swt pe chordo.
Also, someone mentioned to get your husband tested as well…I know two couples personally where the issue was with the husband and both have kids now. But if they hadn’t gotten checked out, no one would have known.