Try-n-buy?

[JimmyKimble]

@Mamaof3

SO. You have a major choice to make, a life changing choice. Do you try it out first or do you just dive in, buy it and hope for the best?

In Desi culture, the biggest of life-changing events - that of marriage - is many times left to others to decide. And sometimes, motives are questionable.

This recent thread about the guy who readily dates but would never marry one who dates really annoyed me. Gals who date are looking for a life partner. This is a cultural western thing. To take advantage of that - to date with absolutely no intention of ever going further than having some fun - is a really slimy thing to do. So there are some** fobby-types **who take advantage of western cultured girls who are looking for potential mates in the way they are accustomed to do yet these fobs have no intention of ever advancing the relationship. Do they lie to the gal to keep it going? Do they lie to their potential and pure rishtas that they’ve kept themselves pure?

Western women find spouses by dating. Good or bad, thats how it IS. If you find yourself tempted to take advantage of this, just DONT. If you’re curious and you think you may just marry a western-type i you happen to fall in love then by all means proceed. But using a girl for fun and being deceptive about your intentions is actually no better than rape.

Proceed with caution, guys. Inshallah, those who play with fire will eventually get burnt pretty badly.

First to clear the air. I could not agree more

Clearly you got offended by supposedly FOB’s perception of Goris/wana-be-gories.

Just to put thing in perspective do you know how, born and raised in west(western paki boys) treat women who are “looking” ??

Or even better tell me some thing and please DO tell!! specially if your post is more then a vent,
Why would a muslim girl date before reaching the age of marriage ???
before completing education???

I mean if even after a girl’s parents telling her for 15-20 year, girl still could not hold her physical needs back, for little longer , wont you say that she is her self if out there to have good time???

Rather then “looking” for husband…