Try-n-buy?

[Pakilarka]

@Mamaof3

SO. You have a major choice to make, a life changing choice. Do you try it out first or do you just dive in, buy it and hope for the best?

In Desi culture, the biggest of life-changing events - that of marriage - is many times left to others to decide. And sometimes, motives are questionable.

This recent thread about the guy who readily dates but would never marry one who dates really annoyed me. Gals who date are looking for a life partner. This is a cultural western thing. To take advantage of that - to date with absolutely no intention of ever going further than having some fun - is a really slimy thing to do. So there are some fobby-types who take advantage of western cultured girls who are looking for potential mates in the way they are accustomed to do yet these fobs have no intention of ever advancing the relationship. Do they lie to the gal to keep it going? Do they lie to their potential and pure rishtas that they’ve kept themselves pure?

Western women find spouses by dating. Good or bad, thats how it IS. If you find yourself tempted to take advantage of this, just DONT. If you’re curious and you think you may just marry a western-type i you happen to fall in love then by all means proceed. But using a girl for fun and being deceptive about your intentions is actually no better than rape.

Proceed with caution, guys. Inshallah, those who play with fire will eventually get burnt pretty badly.

In Desi culture, the biggest of life-changing events - that of marriage - is many times left to others to decide. And sometimes, motives are questionable. Good or bad, thats how it is.

You rnt buying clothes, try it and buy it… Most of you wont even buy a bra or penty that some dirty women had tried before. How is it okay to marry someone who was tried by bunch of others before ?

I agree with the part that guys shldnt take advantage of girls like that, but rnt girls smart enough not to let someone try them who is just there for window shopping ?

If you are dating someone for the sake of marriage, u shldnt do everything before marriage… First find out the intentions of the person u r dating and then proceed if u like, otherwise u will be taken advantage of and rightly so !