if you enter in arranged marriage, where you hardly know your spouse (had couple of conversations), would you completely trust him/her??
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I dont think anyone can....they may want to and that's great but trust comes with time and experience. You can't blindly trust someone you have just met though sometimes one tends to do that and there are some people who can eaisly trust. Also, i believe with marriage you automatically get into such a bond where you want to have that trust in your spouse and thats kinds nice. But one should never trust blindly esp when its someone relatively new :p.
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The idea of complete trust is strange, to me at least; hell, I don't know if I trust myself, let alone another. But yes, I guess time and shared experiences will reveal just how far that person can be trusted.
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i didnt believe in arraged marriages, i always told my parents that i wanna marry someone of my choice with their blessings.. as long they like the guy i pick.. they'll agree they said.....but as time went on.. didnt find any guy i like... so finally finshed my studies... then someone ask for my hand... we both saw each others pictures and... him and me agreed.. hes been here in usa for 3 yrs... we met on our engagedment day... i fell for him first when i saw him walk in... we hung out two times with my bro and sis around us... next times before our wedding.. when i said yes to the engagedment... we havnt even spoke to each other on the phone ...before our engagedment.. mashallah i got lucky... im so happy with my husband.. almost a month since we got married.... arraged marriages are good... your hear leans to trust someone once you start getting to know that person... i fell for my hubby more and more when we spoke 24/7 on the phone calls and texts ,, webcam chats...the trust build up on that... thats how trust get there
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no no way .. gotta rmeember fiance husband is not friend .. esp in the beginning
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yeah no one is in the starting but by talking and learning of each other's likes and dislikes.. trust builds over time.. not matter of mins....
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oh yeah plus if you cant learn to trust your husband then who are you going to trust in life ??? if you cant trust husband then you cant trust yourself..
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Mashallah for you desigirl, you are blessed and lucky :)
But sadly enough, your case is a rare exception. Not everyone is such a happy camper as you...and believe it or not, there are couples who cannot fully trust each other. Thats just reality.
I dont know if I would trust them right away, although I'd like to. But I would definitely say its safe to start by giving benefit of the doubt, bc if you dont you are pretty much doomed.
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Since you used the word "completely" I'd have to say no. No you can't trust him/her completely since you hardly know your spouse. Trust is something that builds with time. Just don't over analyze each others every move because that only leads to trouble. Give each other the chance to prove themselves worthy of the trust.
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I think it takes time to trust someone specially if they are complete stranger to you. I wouldn't trust someone just by meeting them once.
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You are alive from last 24 years, yet Zindagi ka koi eitabar hai?
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If you've already slept with them then I guess there would have to be at least some level of trust. That being said, before you hit if off on the first night, I think it's very important to talk to your partner. Just asking them how they're doing or what they thought about the wedding will make it less awkward when you take it a step further :p