Re: True love in Pakistan?
The thing that has been worrying me a little is our future. I want to live back home, but he says we have to live in pak for sometime first.. Untill he gets enough work experience and all.. He asked me the other day if I would go anywhere with him, and I said i would go where ever he was. And I do. I just can't help feeling like I'm giving something up.. Cause this is where i'm coming from... All my life i've been thinking that I would marry and we would settle down in the UK.. Didnt really consider that i might fall for a guy in Pak who didnt wanna come home with me right away.. Am I being too selfish? I know he has everything here too.. His life, family, friends.. everything.. And maybe I'm just overthinking things? I mean.. He did say that we wont be settleing here in Pak.. I dont know why.. For reason I just cant... :/ Help! I made a pros and con list.. And this was seriously the only thing on the con side.... I need some advise please...
conditions like this always concern me because from what I've seen, it's REALLY hard to pick up everything and leave like that once you're married. And Pakistan is REALLLLLLLLLLLLLY different. It's a HUGE adjustment for my friend who just moved there and she was only in the states for 6 or 7 years total. Even then, she couldn't handle the politics that everyone engages in, the restrictions, etc. Her husband who seemed very understanding, suddenly...wasn't.
My advice would be that you're so young right now - only 20! Use this period to get to know each other better. Also, I would say finish Uni before making any major decisions like marriage. And if you still feel the way that you do now then go for it! I remember when I was 16 / 18 / 20, I used to think I knew everything. But the older I grow I see there's always so much more to know than you think there is. Esp with you gorwing up there and him there, plus your relationship being so new...I would give it lots of time. Good luck!
I'm not much older than you, but this is really true. Looking back at my life, I've gone through periods where I never wanted to get married, found some guy in Pak that I was smitten with and was SURE I wanted to move to Pakistan, then realized I love the middle east and wanted to settle there (and hopefully find some Arab guy teehee ;P ) and now I'm at a point where I want to find someone preferably in the same state but in the US for sure...your goals, your outlook, your career aspirations, how many kids you want, WHEN you want them, and most importantly WHAT YOU WANT IN A GUY will change for a while as you continue to "find" yourself. If you think you're missing something, take heed. Youre young, you still got plenty of time to find the person that'll fit all that.
you should marry someone from your own country if you're not planning to move to Pakistan after marriage.
Yes. I've seen problms both on this forum and in real life of people. Boys from Pak make for vry diff husbands than the guys here (a generalization, I know). It's hard if you're raised in a different environment so be careful
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