so if you have a situation where your younger sister is a moody cow, ( my friends words not mine), doesnt do much at home, is always in her room on comp, or fone, is always moody, has a hang up abouyt everything, whatever mum dad say shes got a mood on, unless she wants something, even when she wants something she makes a face is she dont get it, her mum tells her to wake up early by 11 atleast daily,she wakes up at half 3 in afternoon sometimes, and only does housework when told thrillion times, and shouted at.
if your the older sis/bro what do u do, if talking to her etc hasnt worked
and what would u want ur parents to do
my friend says her mum dad have shouted. talked, done everything, IT ONLY HAS the effect for a day, then its back to normal.
shes 19.and a flop in studies, failed or failing.
ive met her a few times, she can be either nice as pie, or she wont care that guests are there, and will say whatever to her mum, sis, in front of other people.
I think you should find out what's causing her to be like that. I know of a girl who used to be EXACTLY the way you described this one....
It turned out that she was having a relationship with a boy, and whenever she was happy with him, she'd be happy with everyone, and so on. Her mood depended on his, and it started to effect her school, home life, etc.
That was HER case....MAYBE this might be the case for this one as well...if not...you should try finding out WHAT'S causing her to be like that :)
What are the root causes of her behavior? Find that out first. Could be peers...bf....bipolar disorder....even upbringing. Maybe there is something that the parents are doing wrong...that they're not fully aware of....that is causing the problem.
For example...are the parents unknowingly acting as enablers? For instance....do they surrender and let her have whatever she wants......every time she starts pouting and giving attitude? If so, then she has learned that this juvenile mechanism works. If the mom and older siblings always pick up after her......then she has learned that she doesn't need to make the effort to be responsible because that's the indirect message that they're giving her. Does she feel that she's not receiving attention? Is her acting out a way of getting attention...even if it's negative? If that's the case, then maybe don't give her the negative attention....and instead focus on positive attention (when she does something right).
So, determine/analyze the causes before trying out various solutions. Maybe the manner in which her family discusses the issue is counter-productive. Maybe rather than telling her what to do...they should first try to find out if anything is bothering her....and then put forth suggestions for solutions and INVOLVE her in the process of solving the problem. Get her input...work/compromise with her....make a deal, etc. Maybe she can be directed toward something she's passionate about....that she can make a job out of.....a job could help make her more responsible. Taking away privileges (cell phone, Internet, car, weekly allowance)...is another option....but parents have to be consistent otherwise....consequences and rules are not taken seriously.
no one in the world wants to be disliked by his own family members.....and when someone detaches himself from his family that means there is some problem....which others perceive as a bad attitude or ill grooming...try to find out the reasons behind her isolation....taking away computer or phone wont work unless you know why she is acting like that...she has not become this kind of person in a day or so....there must have been series of events which have affected her....so find the root cause.
She sounds depressed. Or can be spoilt. Definitely cut off the internet line, she sounds addicted to the net. She will be out of her room and in the lounge room.
Being stuck in her room is the main problem, she is moody because she is not having enough sleep, although she is in her bed til 3 pm but you can't have a proper sleep during the day.
As njgal suggested that take away Mobile phone and computer from her. Don't take it away altogether but move computer in the living room or to a room where she does not have access after 10pm.
She should be allowed to use her mobile after 10pm
Her parent should wake her up 10am the latest and she should be sent out to find a job
**Don’t try to take her things away because she’ll become more difficult to handle:hehe:
The parents should spend more time with her. They can plan a holiday whitout taking her mobile,… This will make her a bit disconected to this computer and mobile thing.
Then try to find out what she likes,… so she can have a formation and start working. The more shell be busy the less she’ll be on her computer.
Her parents should try to take her everywhere they go. This will maybe make her a bit sociable n friendly.
how u feelin now