Re: troubled
beatific wher r u living n where ur honai wale MIL r living rgt now ?
Re: troubled
If the bari bhabi can do it for so many years, I am sure you can too for few years at least. If this guy is who you want to marry, I really think that he isn't asking for something that's not doable. If you were the only one taking care of the mother while the other bhabis weren't, I could understand. You have a house full of people who will help you out. You don't have to do your job perfectly. Slowly you'll know what to do and how to take care of your MIL. In the long run your husband will always appreciate you. The guy is just doing his job as a son. He has two good bhabis so I am sure he has some expectations from you too.
Re: troubled
i am at Multan and she is living at Lahore Pakistan.
Re: troubled
n wher is ur honai walai husb livin :)
Re: troubled
If the bari bhabi can do it for so many years, I am sure you can too for few years at least. If this guy is who you want to marry, I really think that he isn't asking for something that's not doable. If you were the only one taking care of the mother while the other bhabis weren't, I could understand. You have a house full of people who will help you out. You don't have to do your job perfectly. Slowly you'll know what to do and how to take care of your MIL. In the long run your husband will always appreciate you. The guy is just doing his job as a son. He has two good bhabis so I am sure he has some expectations from you too.
so how should i talk to him now?
i mean i know i love him and he also does and there is nothing like ego in such a relation, i am not being egoistic but i just want to ask a proper way to talk to him about this issue....
Re: troubled
n wher is ur honai walai husb livin :)
UK :)
Re: troubled
wher did u meet him n how ths alll love thing happend ... while livin far away frm each other ...btw credit goes to you ... :)
Re: troubled
we met on a social networking site. just had a chit chat for a long period of life. then we both felt that we can trust each other and can share everything. we talked about almost every topic. the bond grew stronger and stronger. now we both are in love with each other.
Re: troubled
wht make you trust him so much tht you expect him tht he will goona marry you , any real commitment , anything lik tht ?
Re: troubled
wht make you trust him so much tht you expect him tht he will goona marry you , any real commitment , anything lik tht ?
he is coming Pakistan this week just to meet me. we had decided that if after meeting one to one both of us think appropriate than we will go ahead for Nikah. but a few days ago this issue was raised....
Re: troubled
thts great ... my prayers r with you ...Ameen
Re: troubled
thts great ... my prayers r with you ...Ameen
thanks a lot.. :)
Re: troubled
If he is a good person, nice, caring and is only asking this of you...I dont think its a bad thing.
It will be hard but then again...what is not hard? Is there anything in life you have come across that was not difficult to get? An education, job, raising kids, etc etc etc.
Expect to be challenged, arm yourself with patience and go for it. :)
Re: troubled
i will be happily living with her. but i m afraid of my ineligibility to perform such a, i wud say, great task.
and the thing you said about his bhabhi's. i dont know about the choti bhabhi but bari bhabhi left her husband about 21 years ago and came pakistan just for her saas. the old lady is not just her saas but bhabhi gives her the place of her mother because she is the women who brought her up.
It is not difficult to learn. You will not need to take any classes and pass exams and get certified for taking care of an old frail human being.
Just some patience , some love and a lot of empathy will be enough .
Re: troubled
Islamically speaking, it's not your responsibility to take care of his mother, nor should he force you to do that. But if you are willing to do it at your own choice then heaven is waiting for you girl, there is so much ajar by just helping someone in need.