they also wanted me to marry the son, sponsor him.. after all they did, I would never have done it. Now my best revenge is that I ignore them and that irks them… haha but as you, I too go there to visit relatives, but I dont stay more than 2 nights there and that only at my cousin with whom I get along with. Just go but dont be too kind and nice, be polite and reserve, dont talk of the past, just visit and come back without expectations.