i think it probably does make a certain kind of sense for gori brides because they never wear their dresses again. and there are SO many styles to pick from when your day does come- somehow, i don't think very many girls wear their mother's dresses again. so what else are you gonna do with it? all my gori friends have theirs packed away and forgotten in their basements. you might as well get a kick ass underwater/riding horses/in the woods photoshoot out of it! and if you don't mess it up too much, get it drycleaned and pack it away again!
i don't know about the burning one though--- what is that symbolic of? my marriage is floating away like the ashes of this dress? i have dreams of being a stuntwoman/pyro? burning things is cool?
as for desi dresses, no way. sitting underwater with a 10 lb dupatta on my head and a 5 lb kaam-wala lehenga on my bottom half, would mean i wouldn't be resurfacing. so i'll pass :p
And um....
doesnt wearing a dress that's burning while ure IN the dress mean that YOU will burn? or is the fotographer so good taht they can prevent that? :D
I still have my wedding lehenga all wrapped up nicely and tucked away. Maybe one day one of my girls could wear it as is or have it made into something else.
And um....
doesnt wearing a dress that's burning while ure IN the dress mean that YOU will burn? or is the fotographer so good taht they can prevent that? :D
I want a bridal that even my daughter would want to wear 25 years later. I am probably gonna pack my bridal away, hang it in front of my bed and stare at it day and night.. haha. And once I have had enough of it, I'll put it away to wear a second time and then to give it to my daughter.
heck I am wearing my moms bridal on my rukhsati even though she didnt want me to because I am emotional about her and I wanted to pay a tribute to my mother on my wedding
i think thats the aim, to get something thats beautiful enough for our daughters to want, but its rare for girls to actually do that (and props to you llxxll for doing it!) :)
what will probably happen is our daughters will think our dresses are too old fashioned or will have something completely different in mind for their own big days.
i would love to take an awesome, rainy photoshoot in my dress...it cost a lot of money, but i bet the photos would turn out beautiful!
I wore my mom's wedding gharara for my senior photoshoot in high school. That was the first time everyone was in awe of how much I looked like my mother from her wedding day. I love those pictures and those comments from everyone made me feel so emotional. iA, Im planning on wearing her wedding dupatta on my mehndi and told her that her dress is all mine! haha. I can't wait to 'remix' the dress with a fitted shirt and wear some amazing jewelry with it.
I would so keep mine. I would wear it round the house as well. No joke. It is not just a dress but has so many feelings, emotions and meaning associated with it. Once I am done floating around the house in it, I would like to save it for any daughters I may have.
I think most desi girls feel that way, esp cos in our culture for a lot of ppl it may symbolise so much, perhaps falling in love for the first time, leaving home properly (not living with bf beforehand like many non-desis do) etc., and our wedding rituals have so much time and effort put into them, not just one main day of celebration like Christians.. That vid I posted is just for girls who don't reckon they'll be that bothered about their wedding lehenga, sari etc. once their special day is over or a year or two down the line want to get rid and think therefore their stuff could be put to better use..
im probably alone here but im actually thinking of doing this but in a few yrs. I would consider the possibility of riding a horse and/or do a shoot in the water. Definitely nothing in the mud/forest just cuz I dont wanna get it THAT dirty. I would still wanna keep it and not throw it away. If my daughter turns out to be anything like me, she would definitely want to go do her own thing and pick out her own dresses. The main reason I would opt for this is because I'm crazy about this kind of photography and imagine a pakistani girl in her huge/heavy wedding dress in the water or on a horse.. the idea seems wild to me and because I had my wedding in Khi, I wasn't able to have the awesome photography that I could have gotten in NY. So yeh, I'm definitely thinking about it.
Sumo - you should totally do it. you should really consider hiring Amna Siddiqui. she’s very talented and can give you those soft, beautiful, romantic-ee pictures and it’ll give you an opportunity to wear your dress again in a completely different way. maybe you can wear your hair out and down and be barefoot - could be whimsical and romantic. check her out amna siddiqui photography. i’m a huge fan of her and have hired her for all of my events - nikah, mehendi, wedding and valima.
^i havent seen that site specifically, ill def look into it but i know one thing for sure, i dont wanna go with a paki photographer, mainly because i want to go with a photographer that has been in this field and has much experience and ive never heard of a pakistani photographer that really knows much about Trash the Dress.
i spoke to my husband he said hes up for it. i said he can wear a suit but he said he wants to wear his sherwani! haha. i told him he could actually wear the sherwani to his sisters wedding or some other close relatives wedding, ofcourse with out the pagri. but he really wants to wear the sherwani. do u guys think it would look better if he wore his sherwani or a suit?
i also dont wanna do it right away, i would do it in 2-3 yrs from now and after that i would still wanna keep the dress thats why i dont want it to get too dirty.
^ he might as well wear the sherwani if you're gonna wear your dress. it would make for funner pictures and he can always get another one for his sister's wedding, no?
definitely no desi photographers- i think they need to get a handle on photojournalism first before they move into "trash the dress" sessions.
i would never trash my lengha's, they have so much sentiments and memories attached to it, my mum still has her, and we loved the fact she still had it, and i would like to show my dresses to my kids when they are older.
