Here is our good life, we goto school, get a good career where we get paid for showing up everyday, buy expensive gadgets with that money. Ideally, social norm value these things in life. I was thinking how life experiences can change people from last decade to now. There are still those who remain the same by not taking life seriously. There are those who don’t even work hard but get everything. I remember making a dua to Allah to grant me an admission to this Top 10 University in the U.S. and I won’t ask HIM for anything else. (Silly me, how can humans ever stop wishing and stop making duas???) With blessings of God, I did get an admission and it was the happiest day of my life. I was young so I didn’t know what was I putting myself into. Since then, I have always programmed to struggle even I have lived in luxury… My life completely changed because I was struggling more than ever. Now, my duas are not even heard like they used to. Nothing comes for free anymore due to the fact that I have to earn it with hardcore dedicated work.
Have you ever regret making a dua that eventually came true but put your life in jeopardy?.. Our wishes keep on changing according to our livelihood. I remember this friend of mine made a dua to be with her boyfriend by saying that it’s her last wish to God. Allah granted her the guy in marriage mashAllah but she is not happy with him. They say that the proper way to make dua is to say “jo Allah ki raza woh meri raza”… ??? I don’t think many people would like to make an appropriate dua since we want things our way! Is it hard to accept what Allah wants for us because they say duas change destinies…
i agre with hmna .plus u could always pray that Allah grant me peace and satisfaction in what i set out to acheive. Allah likes us to remember Him and pray. i have heard this that "make what i want best for me". There r ways of praying.
There was a man who came 2 prophet (s) and askd that his blind mother get shifa, he has a child and that he is Rich. Prophet(s)said he could get önly 1 dua. So he said Oh God let my mother see my son playing with a bowl of gold. Hence he did dua which got acepted. I think it was a way to tell us not to be discouraged. Also u could pray to Rasul (s) and tell him that 4 the love of Allah he has to grant ur wishes & peace in them. Read durood atleast 3tmz b4 and after dua.
Imam zainul abiden(a.s) said" i do not know whether to thank You(Allah) when my prayers are answered because it is my wish, or when my prayers are not answered because that is ur wish".
Let us pray 4 eachothr so that way our duas hv mr chance of being answered.
There was a man who came 2 prophet (s) and askd that his blind mother get shifa, he has a child and that he is Rich. Prophet(s)said he could get önly 1 dua. So he said Oh God let my mother see my son playing with a bowl of gold. Hence he did dua which got acepted. I think it was a way to tell us not to be discouraged. Also u could pray to Rasul (s) and tell him that 4 the love of Allah he has to grant ur wishes & peace in them. Read durood atleast 3tmz b4 and after dua.
Imam zainul abiden(a.s) said" i do not know whether to thank You(Allah) when my prayers are answered because it is my wish, or when my prayers are not answered because that is ur wish".
Let us pray 4 eachothr so that way our duas hv mr chance of being answered.
Hi majesty can u explain wat u mean by pray to Rasul?
The Prophet (pbuh) was a mortal and we should only pray to God. In darud you ask Allah to bless the prophets Ibrahim and Muhamad and their progeny so it's not a prayer to the Prophet but for him.
Ok, you all have a point there but do you believe in changing destinies with duas? Allah does put us through aazmaish (test) to check if we are capable of selecting right from wrong. If it's not test then it's considered punishment of sins. Obviously, good phase is introduced after the bad one. Wishing for things in a wrong way can be damaging... After my friend's dua was accepted with her wrong wordings, more of her duas were not accepted for at least 2yrs.
Here is our good life, we goto school, get a good career where we get paid for showing up everyday, buy expensive gadgets with that money. Ideally, social norm value these things in life. I was thinking how life experiences can change people from last decade to now. There are still those who remain the same by not taking life seriously. There are those who don't even work hard but get everything. I remember making a dua to Allah to grant me an admission to this Top 10 University in the U.S. and I won't ask HIM for anything else. (Silly me, how can humans ever stop wishing and stop making duas???) With blessings of God, I did get an admission and it was the happiest day of my life. I was young so I didn't know what was I putting myself into. Since then, I have always programmed to struggle even I have lived in luxury... My life completely changed because I was struggling more than ever. Now, my duas are not even heard like they used to. Nothing comes for free anymore due to the fact that I have to earn it with hardcore dedicated work.
Have you ever regret making a dua that eventually came true but put your life in jeopardy?... Our wishes keep on changing according to our livelihood. I remember this friend of mine made a dua to be with her boyfriend by saying that it's her last wish to God. Allah granted her the guy in marriage mashAllah but she is not happy with him. They say that the proper way to make dua is to say "jo Allah ki raza woh meri raza"... ??? I don't think many people would like to make an appropriate dua since we want things our way! Is it hard to accept what Allah wants for us because they say duas change destinies...
The way I've learned it, you have to ask for something with a'afiya. Though I don't know what this literally translates to, it means that whatever you ask for, you get good in it. So whenever I make dua for anything, I always append that to it. When we ask for what we have our heart set on, we don't really know whether it is truly beneficial for us or not. Many times, something that we ask for might be withheld from us in our best interests, but sometimes it is also granted. Asking for a'afiya with anything is asking for good in it also.
Wishing for things in a wrong way can be damaging... After my friend's dua was accepted with her wrong wordings, more of her duas were not accepted for at least 2yrs.
I think it is waaaaay too simplistic to say that your friend's marriage didn't work out after she prayed her heart out to Allah to marry this guy. That's like indirectly blaming it on Allah. Did it ever occur to you that a marriage is influenced by so many factors/variables? As much as you trust your friend's side of the story, you do not live with her and therefore you don't know the intricate details of the marriage.
Let's say that Allah grants you a job that you had been praying to get. You have the responsibility to fulfill that job's duties in a timely and thorough manner and to conduct yourself in a way that is conducive to a professional work environment. If you fail to do so and then end up having trouble at work, is it Allah's fault? He's not going to do everything for you. There has to be a certain degree of free will for life to be a test. Maybe the purpose of failed outcomes is to develop our characters. I don't always understand Allah's motives behind the things that happen and don't happen in life and I have to remind myself of the above points when I feel myself playing the blame game or becoming despondent. But like Hmmna said above.......dua is essence of ibaadat and the concept that Allah would grant our wishes with the purpose to hurt/punish us for improper wording goes against the the belief of Allah being merciful. Despite so many things being beyond our limited understanding, this is not a view I want to believe in.
As for your friend's dua not being answered for 2 years.....maybe it's because it's not time yet for those duas to take place, maybe they're not in her best interest, maybe she's not fulfilling her religious obligations, maybe it is because of her gunnahs, etc. There were prophets who had to wait for decades to get their duas fulfilled.....does it necessarily mean that Allah was punishing them? They were more closer to Allah than we are...so one would think their prayers would be answered sooner.
I also think this thread should be moved to the Religion forum, if it hasn't been already...so it can receive more in-depth responses.
I think it is waaaaay too simplistic to say that your friend's marriage didn't work out after she prayed her heart out to Allah to marry this guy. That's like indirectly blaming it on Allah. Did it ever occur to you that a marriage is influenced by so many factors/variables? As much as you trust your friend's side of the story, you do not live with her and therefore you don't know the intricate details of the marriage.
Let's say that Allah grants you a job that you had been praying to get. You have the responsibility to fulfill that job's duties in a timely and thorough manner and to conduct yourself in a way that is conducive to a professional work environment. If you fail to do so and then end up having trouble at work, is it Allah's fault? He's not going to do everything for you. There has to be a certain degree of free will for life to be a test. Maybe the purpose of failed outcomes is to develop our characters. I don't always understand Allah's motives behind the things that happen and don't happen in life and I have to remind myself of the above points when I feel myself playing the blame game or becoming despondent. But like Hmmna said above.......dua is essence of ibaadat and the concept that Allah would grant our wishes with the purpose to hurt/punish us for improper wording goes against the the belief of Allah being merciful. Despite so many things being beyond our limited understanding, this is not a view I want to believe in.
As for your friend's dua not being answered for 2 years.....maybe it's because it's not time yet for those duas to take place, maybe they're not in her best interest, maybe she's not fulfilling her religious obligations, maybe it is because of her gunnahs, etc. There were prophets who had to wait for decades to get their duas fulfilled.....does it necessarily mean that Allah was punishing them? They were more closer to Allah than we are...so one would think their prayers would be answered sooner.
I also think this thread should be moved to the Religion forum, if it hasn't been already...so it can receive more in-depth responses.
Thank you for your thoughtful response... I am not blaming Allah for anything. But saying to Him, "O Allah I won't ask you for anything else just make this wish come true"... I think it is the wrong way to go. There must be an appropriate etiquette to make duas... Allah never wants his believers to stop asking Him for help... Worldly things can really turn people blind.
@hmmna I believe the prophet (s)as created from noor and sent in the form of a “mortal” for us to learn and see how he bared the difficulties that came his way and still was steadfast.
“Verily in the messenger of Allah you have the best example”. If he was sent as an an angel, the entire human race would have said but he’s not a human being so we can’t follow his example.
To be a Muslim you testify that Muhammad (s) is the prophet of Allah. NOt was. Here
Not hear to debate opinions on religion, just wanted to help sister out. And if u disagree then we can agree to disagree.