bisoux
October 24, 2013, 1:17am
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Re: Training a baby on his attitude ..
CB here is something I read up on and I really believe now.
When we punish a baby this young, or put him in a cot, or any form of distress or tension, we are activating that part of his brain which creates alarm and the signal for panic. Like any muscle, if we overactivate that, it will overdevelop. At the expense of something else which will underdevelop. And the child grows up to be an anxious panicked individual who scares easy. Our job is to distract. And I loved GTG’s mom’s idea too, I do agree on implementing that by just repeating over and over that this is not yours, THIS is yours.
Beyond that, consistency and an insane amount of patience is the key. They don’t have very long memories yet, their brains are primitive and the world is too large for them to focus on “no”. They get too excited and curious. So distraction is best, and an understanding of where THEY are coming from. Where THEY are coming from, it’s “wow I did this” when they create any sort of change in their environment, destructive or innocuous. We are mothers are to recognize that and by repeating no for dangerous things, we are to slowly embed into their subconscious what they shouldn’t touch, rather than expect them to remember. Cos believe me, they cannot remember at this point.
These however are my views. Every mom is different. Please keep sharing.
Or the child can become “immune” to the over disciplining over time? For example some children are so used to being yelled at that they don’t even care after some point.