Re: Traditional?
I agree that a person gets mature by their experience and this person is not that mature that she is not able to make such decisions on her own - that is my judgement after having known her for some years and having been paying for the consquences of her actions.
The situation is complicated cuz she happens to be my SIL. I have earlier adviced her but she has never paid any of my advices any attention making me consider y she ever asked in front of my hubby when she never listens anyway...
Anyhows,despite my not so deep relationship with her I am really really worried about what she is doing here, cuz the effects of her decision/actions will be on her son, but also on me and my hubby. MIL was really angry at me cuz she thought I knew about her plans when I had no clue at all. I felt sorry for MIL cuz I sincerely think it is the right of the mother to know about such huge steps.
While I am worried about her, I also feel very sad and hurt that she didnt involve me and hubby at all. she just informed shortly by e-mail which I found very strange. I remember when it was the time for my and hubby's rishta talk she was involving herself way too much in each detail even when it came to fixing dates with my parents rather than letting their parents do that. I feel very excluded, especially since SIL and FIL were whispering quiet loud to hide stuff from me in another room the day she was flying off to PK making me feel not very much part of the family. also se didnt reply any questtions I asked about this rishta...
Hubby has been very quiet since she left and speaks sometimes about how the family might be etc.
On one side I am really worried about her. and at the same time I am feeling anxiety that her actions' consequenses might fall on me which has happened many time untill now. I am still struggling to figure out the dynamics in the in-laws family structure and am wondering how they tend to become traditional in their expectations to me but cant include me when big things are going on and they have the opportunity to show that they want to include me ...
I am worried..pata nahin kaise log houn ge....
and I am sad...