In Pakistani culture the traditions are closely adhered to. I often have trouble accepting something merely on the basis that my father and his father did it. However what i have most trouble with are wedding ceremonies in Pakistan. Tragically the elders in most cases are the ones pushing this upon their kids.Here is to best of my knowledge the steps to doomhood
- Engagement.
- Mayoon
3.Mehndi
Somewhere there insert the jaheez and showing it off - a)Nikah
b)Baraat and Rukhsati
5.Valima
6.Nashta
7.Muklawa
And now with the latest trend of decoration,themes,videos and photoshoots the entire event has the cost rocketing skywards. My question is only posed towards people who doNOT believe in live and let live principal. And those who are effulent and can afford it solely on their own hard earned money. Doesn’t it appear like a gross showoff to you? Nobody is going to say i cannot do all of this because i dont have enough money (fear of poor stigma) nor will anyone say its waste of money (miser stigma). I have always felt that the people who indulge in this israf are the ones who are the reason why our society indulges in such practices.
Now to connect religion to all of this here is a fatwa i have hunted down
The ceremonies of Mehndi and Rukhsati as described by you are purely customs of the Indian Hindus that have seeped into us Muslims due to our prolonged interaction with them. In Islam, a wedding is a simple affair. The elaborate frills accompanying today’s Muslim weddings are based on sheer ostentation or in emulation of the disbelievers. Such weddings are a waste of hard earned money. Rasulullah [Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam] is reported to have said, ?The Nikah that incurs the least expenditure draws the most blessings.? Our advice to you would be as follows: 1. Have the in the Musjid. 2. Have a Waleemah after the couple has met in complete privacy. This could be on the same day or the day after. Waleemah is Sunnah. Bear in mind that you would be on the receiving end of a lot of criticism from members of your family for opting for a simple ceremony. Rather bear their criticism stoically for a few days and draw the blessing of Allah instead of drawing His wrath for the rest of the marriage. and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best Mufti Muhammad Kadwa FATWA DEPT. checked & approved by: mUFTI EBRAHIM DESAI (FATWA DEPT.)
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) me on ma broz wedding since i wore night suit on some special event of his wedding (i didnt know wat the heck was dat. :D)