i think that its a fragile situation for us. we really value familial relationships and don't like any awkwardness. i guess this stems from what we've seen with our parents and their relationship dynamics with their own in-laws. its like you don't want to hurt them, but you feel like crap inside for giving in. i guess this is a learning experience and need to leave the ego at the door.
I just know that God is looking over us and all that we do is being accounted for. I find that its just better to avoid these types of situations.. it hurts at first but ... like.. there's not much you can do. short term pain for long term gain?
but hey, at least the parents really understand and appreciate our stance... parents' blessings are the reward i guess from doing good.