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tell him to go find two decent looking dresses for $1500. he would then understand better!
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^no don't say that. there's no point to get mad at something that was essentially a miscommunication. Men do this all the time- having an opinion abt things they don't know anything abt. Trust me i have lot of brothers and a dad.
Just say sweetly you're very sorry and you feel very bad especially since you already placed the order, and that you'll pay for the rukhsati jora. and END IT. Pick your battles wisely. and this does not seem to a worthwhile one, especially because however way you go abt it, you'll look like a free loader at the end of the day.
Personally, I really think if you say it the way I presented it, they're gonna pay for both of it anyways, so you'll still get what you want while looking very innocent.
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^ agreed. Very well said!
Sorry to hear about the misunderstandings... IA, it'll clear up soon... and coming from the Grooms side- we didn't give our Bhabhi a budget for her outfit, all we said was hand us the receipt and that's that... my brother understood this is what my parents want to do and so it be.
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Well he is a pretty "religious" guy for lack of a better term...and he believes in living with modesty. He is very successful in his career and stays by himself in a state different than his parents. His parents live in a huge fancy home but he's satisfied in his humble apartment. The girl is well aware of all this and is OK with his choices...I guess...but he was very mad at her for spending so much. Although come to think of it, it wasn't really too much, eh?
Im sorry, but what she spent wasnt much at all. Given that his in laws have money and so does he, whast the problem? He could have simply said he thought that was a bit much, but why make a problem out of this? Its her special day, his parents agreed to the dresses, so why make her feel bad? She should say : listen, I see that you think its a bit much, but these really are the prices these days for something decent. Your parents were clear about not having a problem with my choices. Im sorry you are upset, but lets not make this a problem, since its our wedding and it will happen only once.
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Well he is a pretty "religious" guy for lack of a better term...and he believes in living with modesty. He is very successful in his career and stays by himself in a state different than his parents. His parents live in a huge fancy home but he's satisfied in his humble apartment. The girl is well aware of all this and is OK with his choices...I guess...but he was very mad at her for spending so much. Although come to think of it, it wasn't really too much, eh?
It's an issue of her wedding clothing which was discussed with the elders ... she probably honestly did not think it was an issue that he would care about it. Since most guys do not...especially when his parents are very involved in the whole wedding process.
She should tell him she's sorry she didnt think about consulting with him about this issue as well. But she shouldn't apologize for doing anything wrong in regards to ordering the outfits. His parents told her that money was not an issue and to send them the bill. No drama ...and lucky girl. And considering the prices that are going for in Pakistan now a days for lehngaa - it is VERY obvious to me that she is not out to take advantage of his family. No looting going on here!
The prices of her bridals are very reasonable and not extravagant. She should not feel bad about anything..... and if he continues to harp on this... then its unfortunate and I feel bad for her.....
This is a very special time in her life ... it only comes once... and a misunderstanding on her end that he takes an interest about everything should not come in the way of this...
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if that was MY fiance.....there wouldnt BE a wedding.... :D if hez getting uptight now....god only knows what will happen later....Good Luck to her....
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$1000 is kind of amazing for a bridal lehnga..
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So my friend has read this thread as a guest and thanks you all for the input.
She's been able to talk to her fiance and explain to him that these days this amount is considered pretty reasonable and that she respects his choices...He apologized to her and assured her that he will take care of the cost of what she's ordered.
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:D
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I think her parent in laws might have realized that the total bill of the bridals has exceeded their budget and so they have pushed their son to convince your friend to order both the bridals in $1500. As it would be too inappropriate to ask her themselves. otherwise why would he have an issue when his parents told her that “money isn’t an issue”. It’s just stupid! 
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now that everything is fine i dont think we need to think of whats and whys anymore. let them be happy and peaceful! :)
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Yes. Wish them the best. Weddings are a stressful time, no?