spock, its not fully done, but I am doing it and need to finish it. its not just about what happens to my remains, and any wishes like where I am buried type of stuff, but about what happens to the kids incase something happens to both me and the woman.
right now we are going with the approach of one separate person controls the money and someone else is responsible for keeping them type of approach. begum and I also have to figure out who would be the best person for them to live with, how to determine what is the right amount to give to whoever they will be with,
it sounds very business and numbers and roles and responsibilities, but I want to do as much due diligence on my part. In general i dont think that my or begum's siblings will become some sort of money grubbing twits illtreating the kids or trying to swallow up whatever is left behind, but having this in place does not hurt, even if there is never really a need for it to be used or need to be used to control the situation.
That's great and that's the sort of answer I was expecting from a person I would look up to for advice. I am not yet at that stage where you are at, i.e. family and responsibilities, but what you just wrote (i.e. your biggest concerns being your loved ones, specifically your wife and kids) is a great reassurance and shows the true power of a family. Reminds me of a fugees song!