“Time heals all wounds”
Maybe the little itsy bitsy cuts but wounds, HELL NO. I can still feel fresh pain from emotional toture i went through last year.
Or “things will get better”
we all say these things when we know we are just saying it to make our selves feel better :o
okay just another rant :o
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I just read another one in Life forum. Inside beauty matters, thats complete BS. I want to see how many guys would marry 60 year old woman with a GORGEOUS heart. :o
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PB, in some cases its possible the deeper the wound the longer it will take.
Its also possible that depending on the situation...someone may never fully heal...but they should do their best to try.
I hope things get better for you. Inshallah. :)
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I so agree with you PB, some wounds are so live altering that they never heal.
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And sometimes don't they seem to freshen up when you hear a song or that time of year when you got the wound in the first place? Arrggghhhhh.
"Time heals all wounds"
Maybe the little itsy bitsy cuts but wounds, HELL NO. I can still feel fresh pain from emotional toture i went through last year.
Or "things will get better"
we all say these things when we know we are just saying it to make our selves feel better :o
okay just another rant :o
"Time heals all wounds"
It is really true. No matter how bad the wound is, time will heal ultimately. You can't even imagine how strong Allah has made us.
How long it takes to heal depends on an individual.
It really helps speed up the process if you can look over your shoulder on someone else's wounds that are deeper then your own.
Regards
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RealityCheck needs a reality check.
There are people on this board who lost their kids few years ago. Are you telling me their wounds have healed?
People who get divorces?
People who almost get divorces?
You honeslty think these wounds will ever heal?
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What about losing a child? Is that just a scar too?
RealityCheck needs a reality check.
There are people on this board who lost their kids few years ago. Are you telling me their wounds have healed?
People who get divorces?
People who almost get divorces?
You honeslty think these wounds will ever heal?
I guarantee you all will heal.
I carried my own young son to grave myself few years ago.
Yeh it was painful but here I am, happily living and even talking about him doesn't bother me anymore.
I am an average human being just like you.
As I said, you can't even begin to imagine how strong you are.
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So it doesn't hurt as much now when you see their clothes or their pictures? Or when things remind you of them?
So it doesn't hurt as much now when you see their clothes or their pictures? Or when things remind you of them?
That stage has come and gone. Now I swear it doesn't hurt a single bit.
You know why is that ?
That's because Allah is a super planner... he gives you a lot more then what he takes from you...
Now think about this...
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MashAllah thats awesome but i think you are one of the very few strong people.
Ahhh great another great saying.
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After one Bang, life uses time to heal you for next Bang. :( :(
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Phats as someone who lost children in traumatic settings, I will say that time does heal, pictures, items, still bring back very painful memories, but as painful as they are, are they even remotely close to what I went through when it happened, where for all intents and purposes I had shut down for a few days and was barely functioning for a few weeks? No.
Time heals the wound, but teh scar stays, in if the wound was like that of a finger that was lost, the wound may heal, but teh finger is not coming back, its not the same, it will not be the same.. but you move on, you dont think about it every minute every day.
in 12 days it will be 5 years since I lost my my kids and it is not easy because the memories come rushing back, but ...time healed. I had spoken to a counselor the day after the loss and he had said that time will heal, I did not believe him,a nd he had explained about the level of impact on me and how frequent it will be would continue to reduce, and if it does not then it means I have slipped into depression etc. He was right, time does heal.
PS: I had twin older brothers who did not make it, my mother always thinks of them at milestones..they would have been graduating now, they would be getting married now, etc. I sometimes find myself doing the same..they would be starting school this year etc..you dont forget..you move on.
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What healing refers to is the ability to control and handle the pain as time goes on.
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Time isnt really meant to heal. It just keeps going and so must we.
Life is relentless, we just have to find our way through it.
Dont blame time man, it doesnt stop!
MashAllah thats awesome but i think you are one of the very few strong people.
Ahhh great another great saying.
That's not true. Most people are like that.
Phats as someone who lost children in traumatic settings, I will say that time does heal, pictures, items, still bring back very painful memories, but as painful as they are, are they even remotely close to what I went through when it happened, where for all intents and purposes I had shut down for a few days and was barely functioning for a few weeks? No.
Time heals the wound, but teh scar stays, in if the wound was like that of a finger that was lost, the wound may heal, but teh finger is not coming back, its not the same, it will not be the same.. but you move on, you dont think about it every minute every day.
in 12 days it will be 5 years since I lost my my kids and it is not easy because the memories come rushing back, but ...time healed. I had spoken to a counselor the day after the loss and he had said that time will heal, I did not believe him,a nd he had explained about the level of impact on me and how frequent it will be would continue to reduce, and if it does not then it means I have slipped into depression etc. He was right, time does heal.
PS: I had twin older brothers who did not make it, my mother always thinks of them at milestones..they would have been graduating now, they would be getting married now, etc. I sometimes find myself doing the same..they would be starting school this year etc..you dont forget..you move on.
That's a key right there. You move on...you can't stop living, you move on because you are strong.