ok so…this thread in the general forum and in religion forum brought up a lot of questions in my mind.
k..so…i wear a hijaab…and i am aware that HIJAAB comes with a package…i mean..u can’t just be a hijaabi and be religious by wearing a piece of cloth on ur head…bohat si cheezein badalni parti hein..like..ur tor tareeqe…i mean…choti se choti cheezein for example not wearing perfume…!
so…mein bohat bohat bohat koshish kerti hoon keh…apne aap ko un sub khayaalon se bachaaon jo keh is umer mein aana shuroh hote hen! i mean…mene humesha se bohat pehre lagaaye hein apne dil pe…bohat control kiya hai (our Alhumdulliah i AM in control..hehe)…so…pehli cheez…Allah tala ne insaanon mein yeh baat daali hi kyuon…like…attraction for the opposite gender, and wanting to look beautiful to get as much attention u get (opposite gender ki)..i mean…agar Allah miyaan chahte hein hum AISE hon…like…aurten hijaab pehne..to..phir…is umer mein ITNA zyada yeh sub khayal kyuon aate hein..
ok..i admit…this is a stupid question…zahir hai…Allah tala humein aazmaa hi to rahe hein…unhi cheezon ka to humein sawab milta hai…(i just watnted to discuss this)..
and one more thing…aap log..i mean…how do u guyz avoid urself from all these thoughts…i know keh mushkil hota hai bohat…our aap mein se kuch log yaqeenan kahein ge keh…its impossible at this age for anyone to not think of ppl of their opposite genders…
par…i mean…wat do u make urself think…how do u NOT look beautiful..mein koshish kerti hoon..lekin..i mean..mein bhi larki hoon…mera bhi dil chahta hai mein achhi lagoon…is liye mein bhi parties mein tayyar hokeh jaati hon..
log kya sochein ge agar mein bohat hi bure haal mein chali gayee to…pagal kehein ge..looking ugly just so i don’t get any attention from guyz…I KNOW KEH THIS IS NOT THE RITE SOCH…par guess wat…ITS TRUE…hum sub aese hi sochte hein..we care too much of the society and wat other ppl think of us..
so..back to my question..
HOW DO U AVOID ALL THIS…!!!
kya sachi muchi bohat burre lagein?
kabhi tayyar bhi na hoon?
makeup bhi nahi krein community events mein?
KYAAAAA KEREINNNN??
Aggar ap saaf sothre kapre, mon do karr ankhoN me surma laga karr bahir niklo gi to borri to nehi laggo gi? isko burra nehi balke sadgi kehte hain....mujkho sadgi bohat pasand hae...believe me or not i dont have any make up, just surma and a moisture cream. nothing more...mera dil to kabhi nehi kya to use something else either...
isslye sadgi aur gande maile kachile kapre use karne me bohat farq he :)
Dear Rani
very nice post by you , ummm so you asked ke Allah insan ke dil meiN opposite side ki attractioN kion paida karta hai our achaa lagana attarction ke liye hum kioN karte hian ,yehi tho baat hai ke apnay nafas ko control karna he hamara imtihaN hai aur isii tarah Allah humeN our hamray Iman ko aazmata hai .
second question is ke how do we avoid from such stuff ....from being involved with someone thu that is the reason ke Allah ne order kia hai ke larki yaa larka baligh hoo jaey too uss ki shade hoo jaey insaN bhuht se gunahioN se baach jata hai ...our zarori nahi ke aap fashioN naa karoo thu aap buray lago gaye as larki said sadgi meiN jo husan hai wo kisi our baat meiN nahi and sometimes we dont want to look nice coz of others , for some ppl it makes them feel good abt themselvs .
Well thoughts of opposite sex are natural and they will b there once u get baligh, thats y its been ordered in Islam to get marry at an early age, but in this material world we r running after idealism and other stuff, and thats y these problems are arising.
As far as fashion or wearing nice clothes or make up is concerned this is not forbidden in islam and u can go to parties as well. The restriction is the free mixing and mingling with NAMEHRUMS, where we are stopped by islam.
And an other thing its not gunaah to have thoughts of opposite sex, but gunnah is to make urself think of these things.
Larki Pakistani: hmmm…that was very well said…bohat kuch samajh aaya..
yes…i DO always wear saaf suthre kapre…keep myself clean…and MOST OF THE TIME i am very saadi…like…skool ya kaheen bhi bahir…par…at like parties…mera dil chahta hai keh mein SAADI se thori zyada lagoon (hehe)…sachi…like…our larkiyaan bhi to itnaaaaa tayyar hokeh aati hain na…so..we don’t just wanta look saade…larkiyon keh dil mein aik baat hoti hai keh…woh our larkiyon se kum nahi lagna chahteen…haina?
lekin wese this was the very very very well said..and explained…
Thankyou very much!
mehroo : very well said mehroo aapi…yes…both answers r rite…pehla wala…we have same thoughts…doosra…yes…saadgi part is true…u can just look saadi and look beautiful…
like…mein kabhi aise kapre pehne…i mean…like…sirf white…ya saade se bilkul…no shhokh colours…and wear a same colour hijaab over…to sub kehte hein bohat pyari lag rahi ho…chehre pe aik noor sa aata hai…nahi?
thankyou mehroo aapi
Raza750 hmmmm…i never thought of that!! (the getting married at an early age)…yes…good points u have there!
mera bhi yehi khayal hai…agar khud bakhudhiii aayein na aise khayal…to mujhe gunah to nahi milta hoga na!
Rani.. neeyat sirf ALLah jaanta hai.. ager tum apne liye tayyar hoti ho to ho.. i dont think u have much to worry about... magar ager tum yeh soch ke tayyar ho rahi ho ke main us larke ko kaise lagon gi ya mujhe konse outfit se kitni atention mile gi to in dono neeyaton main to farq hua na.. Allah mian to bandon ki neyat bhi dekhta hai
I wear hijaab and i wear all sort of clothes that are usually In the fashion except those who expose tooo much.I do a lille bit mkeup too in parties and use perfume as well.As far as u r observing hijaab i dont think there is anything wrong with it.Allah Mian ne acha lagne se kabhi mana nahin kiya,your intention should be not to attract opposite gender.You can go to all girls parties and enjoy yourself
Dont worry too much.Bure khyalat to aate hain,its part of life,agar aap yeh realize ker lo ke yeh bure hain yehi bohat hai i think… keep asking Allah to give you enuff strength to follow the right path,best of luck. :k:
Well i think im not very normal :D like other gilrs mujkho tyaar hone ka bohat shoq nehi he...i just like ke mere kapre saaf suthre aur ache hoN...sorat to Allah swt ne banay he jaise bhi he waise hi he....
waise sabh ajkal bohat tyar hote hain...why not be unique and sadi :D
hello kasish,
long time no see yar…kahan ho aap?
i guess kafi ursa hogaya na baat kiey huey?
nahin?
now bak to topic
ji rani salamz
yeah ur deeds are very much islamic…key u dun use perfumes same like me…specially if i m going to parties i hav stopped using perfumes for the past 2 yrs…jub sey awareness hui hey…key yeh buri cheez hey …haan per apney ghar mey i do use perfumes…
secondly…burey khayalaat…is age mey aatey zaroor hein…aur yeh sochna key yeh khayalaat Allah Pa’ak ney kion diyeh to HERE i wanna correct u my dear…burey khayalaat shaitaan lata hey takey hum Allah Pa’ak ki bataai hui bataon ko bhool jaein…aur kuch nahin…aur aksar yehi hota hey…hum namaz perhney kharey hoan to burey khayalaat aatey hein un sey tung ho ker hum namaz hi chor deytey hein…aesa hota hey na? to yehi to shaitaan chahta hey…us ka real purpose…
doosra opposite gender key barey mey khayal aana jesey Raza ney bataya…key getting married at n early age is an order in Islam…bulkul sahi…
aur duniya ki perwa kerna chor do…like me…mujhey ab bulkul bhi bura nahin lagta agar emy sar per poooora duppatta rakh ker…apney aap ko poora cover ker key bahar jati hoon…to loag kia kahien gey…
I JUST DAMN CARE…logoan ney aap ko pehley bhi kuch nahin dia…aaap key bunney sawerney per woh aap ko kia dey dein gey…yeh sab fazool ki sochein hein…magar parties mey tareeqey aur saaf saaf achey kaprey pehen ker bhageir zada makeup key mey zaroor jati hoon kion key ofcourse shadi khushi ka moqa hota hey…wahan per ap (aaj kal key doar mey) sirf simplee sey kaprey pehen ker nahin jatey…magar aap us mey bhi hijaab ko in kersaktey hein…
^ salams rabika....
seeing ur number of posts increasing by this frequency made me realize you had been posting in cafe and as for me i rarely visit cafe so thats why we were out of touch i guess :-)
I have been fine and on and off visiting GS too.how about urself? :)
wasalam kasish:)
yar ker liya karo na cafe ka bhi visit:-Dn that is y i never see u n e whr:) u know wat I rarely visit other forums...
me is Alhumdullillah perfectly alright....exams are over...still getting bored...:)khair kia kersaktey hein...:)
tum apna batao:)
hein?? masoom?? hehe…thanx for ur dua 
