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Someone said really bad stuff about me in my face I am super annoyed very angry very frustrated but I don’t want to create an issue if i talk to them it will be more mess…what do i do how do i release my tension :frowning:

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There is a saying he whoever angers you controls you so don’t let that person control you by making you feel bad. People try to bait you don’t take the bait and not let them succeed in their game.

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I so want to do that…but i dont know how :frowning: i wish there was a shift delete button for human beings too I would have deleted this feeling!! :teary1:

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Slap him/her tight or puncture his/her bike/car. If you don’t wanna do this then go to nearest park and watch smiling faces kids playing playing there. You can play video games or do mathematics too.

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:smiley: Thanks for the suggestion thankfully I have my two sons who will make me feel better when i go back home IA they r my only hope…

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I deal with the public and so many times many people can be mean and I employ the technique called positive self-talk, this Christmas too I used that. I keep telling myself that I will be happy and won’t let people control my emotions and the biggest punishment of a miserable person is that they have to live with themselves etc.

Here are some excerpts from an article

We all hold internal conversations as we go through our days, and sometimes our nights. Psychologists have identified one important type of these inner monologues as “self-talk,” in which you provide opinions and evaluations on what you’re doing as you’re doing it. You can think of self-talk as the inner voice equivalent of sports announcers commenting on a player’s successes or failures on the playing field.

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Nope! the only hope is Bilawal :stuck_out_tongue:

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whattt :open_mouth:

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If talking to them will make a bigger mess, then see if maintaining a distance from them will help. If you and the person have mutual friends and relatives, then avoid venting about them to these mutual persons because it does get around and make an ugly mess.

This is hard to do, I admit. But when you’re feeling calmer, reflect over what the person said. Sometimes the other person has a point and we can learn about what we need to change/fix in ourselves for our own good.

If you feel that any attempts at clarification will only worsen things, then leave it alone…Allah pe chor do. Distract yourself with other activitities and don’t dwell on them. The things that are totally out of our control are an azmaaish or test for us…and we can’t control others at all. Sometimes our friends and family and coworkers become a test for us and we can respond in a way that shows loss of control (anger) or in a way that’s more decent. You have a choice just as the other person did. And you can choose to respond in a better way.

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Anwer sir kahte hain aisa :hypo:

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thank you very much for such a nice advice I actually am doing almost the same…ignoring what they did and living my own life…though i feel one should not be pressurized to live with someone who doesnt love or respect you but kia keren majboori hai…