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Re:

Barfi,

Even if you were to have an arranged marriage, isn’t there always the chance that the guy could be a jerk after marriage? Isn’t that risk always going to be there. A guy can be on his best behavior in front of your parents, so how will you know what he’s really like if you don’t talk to him?

If you’re firmly against dating or interacting a with a guy without your parents’ consent/knowledge, then why are you concerned about whether what you did was a stupid mistake or not? In this case what you should do is to only consider guys who send their rishta to you and meet the guy in your parents’ presence. And then you and him can inform the parents that you’d like to get to know each other for a while before making a decision. That way your parents will be aware of everything.

That would be the more Islamically correct way I guess…for a guy to make his intentions clear at the start to you and ur parents and then get to know you. But many people prefer to involve the parents only after they are sure that they’ve found the person they want to marry…which may be how the guy in question prefers to do things.

But the main point is that even if you don’t date and meet a guy via arranged rishta route…u wont know if he’s a jerk unless you to talk to him.