Any bitter experience(s) lately?
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paragraphs ???
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Reading this thread with no title.
Anyways, welcome on your first post.
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Actually I made this post accidently and didn't know how to delete it :$
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Iss mein ghussay wali kiya baat hy 
Ghalti ho jati hyyyy 
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Sorry. That was just a joke Mr./Miss.
Carry on please. 
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Actually I wrote a longggg post..then I found out that someone related to it was on the same thread too :P So I had to edit it. Will come with it soon :)
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bee sting
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I actually read the whole thing, scary, very scary, sounds like a a very professional player/con artist to me, good for you for getting rid of him. =)
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yeah ...... clicking this thread in the list of threads was the most recent one ....
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^haha
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yeah ...... clicking this thread in the list of threads was the most recent one ....
hahahahah!!!
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I actually read the whole thing, scary, very scary, sounds like a a very professional player/con artist to me, good for you for getting rid of him. =)
I let it remain here for a while and you read it :) I will re post it soon waise. Yes very scary indeed and something I have never heard of before..BTW how are we supposed to deleted a post?
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Can i read some decent stories .. PLEASE?!
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I am re posting my story..not so decent one but something that could let people stay away from such scams:
I would like to share a bitter experience that me and my family faced recently and has left me totally shattered. Last year, a 'prestigious' rishtay wali auntie sent us a proposal. The guy was ten years older than me. He came alone and talked to my parents. A very well groomed personality who tried to charm my parents and successfully succeeded in that. I somehow, sensing something fishy in him, rejected the proposal. He wanted to settle abroad immediately and I was not comfortable without knowing him as I had been divorced previously and was like..very cautious. Anyhow, when I rejected, he tried making me agree on it that his wife would decide where to live and he will change his stance according to my wishes..somehow, I felt he was trying to trap me so I rejected him. A year passed and our families came across twice...third time, my mom said that i shud give him a try..He might me the one for me. Anyhow things started again and this time families visited each other and we also started talking on phone. I found him a totally opposite person. He pretended to be so nice that even my parents and whole family, including my khaalas, chachus srated to like him. He told us that he had married before and divorced his wife due to cultural differences. He said that his wife got her uterus removed due to ulcer and was unable to conceive so they adopted her sister's son. Anyhow, when they felt that the kid was getting affected due to their rift, they decided to separate. Anyhow, his family seemed to be perfect..I met everyone. Since his mother was frail, she came to our house twice. A month passed, while my parents were doing inquiry, we started getting close. Then one day while talking, we came to know that my dad' first cousin (who had died) was his mother's best friend since like forever! Anyhow he came to know about my family that I was from a v.strong family background and had many famous people bla bla. As the relationship grew and my parents had their inquiry done (which got v.easy as they were known by our family) we decided to say YES! So my mom told his mom that we will invite them in three weeks time and they can come and do the rasam. This guy started coming to our house. He would sit for hours, do farmaish with my parents, plan wedding, bookings, guests list etc. You can imagine the process of weddings that how they take place. Since he was the eldest in the family, he was doing everything on his own. Anyhow, we gave order for the ring and I mean everything was so perfect. I started sensing some change in that guy..One thing I would like to mention is that he started demanding stupid things like you shud wear this, go to parlour, get this and that done. This was highly irritating for me. Later he told me that he just wanted to see whether I would retaliate or not cz his ex wife used to do so so he didnt like retaliating women! Anyhow I thought maybe he is too insecure and will be fine with the passage of time. Later he came up with more insecurities that since I had studies in co-ed, I might have been in relationship with other guys and all..Anyhow things started getting better with the passage of time. A month before our engagement was due, this guy started to disappear. He would call me less and I thought he might be busy with work..(that's what he told me). Then he went to KHI for a week. Not knowing what was happening, I got conscious. But he was such a clever man that he convinced my mum saying that auntie ur daughter is a bit sensitive and she misses me that's why she gets panicky and all. Anyhow..he started taking out some odd points which I didnt know how to settle. Moreover, in my house everyone was preparing for engagement and marriage was supposed to take place after two months (as the date set by him) and everyone was happy except for me..I dunno why I had some feeling that there was something wrong. Anyhow, a week before engagement he called me and said he doesnt feel the love towards me and something is killing him. I asked what? He said well I feel you will be a retaliating wife and if I would say something you'll pack your bags and leave. You would make guy friends and turn to them..they way you're loving towards me, you might have gotten involved in the past! I was totally exhausted! I started to cry because I had been tired of clearing myself up..anyhow, he said that I am a difficult person and v.dominating. i see mywife as a subordinate who shall not have a say in anything..and I was like WHAT! He was trying to trap me so that i could leave him..anyhow he got v.rude and said tell me right now if you want to marry such a guy or not ! I said that you didnt say that in the start and all that you had been saying and doing..is totally opposite to what you dictated in the start of this relationship and he shot back at me that to hell with what I said...rehna hy tou raho warna dafa ho..I sed go to hell! I would not like to stay with you..and we disconnected. I thought that maybe it was just a usual fight and he would come back as he loved me alot ( he said so)! Anyhow..I tried calling him and he shouted at me that if you didnt leave me I will harm you in a way that your whole family will remember me for generations. terrified, I didnt call him back. I dunno whether it was from God that I remembered I had his hotmail password since many weeks and I never checked it out..I finally decided to do it. When I opened his inbox I was stunned to see that this guy had been visiting/meeting girls (in the time he pretended to be busy and in karachi for work purpose) I saw the pictures of different girls and the time he had been spending here with my family, planning for wedding, he had been in touch with other girls too! When I probed more, I found out that he lied about his age and qualification. i was still in the state of shock when someone from his family ( I wont mention who cz he might be here reading this post) came online and upon knowing what had happened, blurted out the whole reallity which sent me in to a deep shock!
Reality: He had been married twice..he left his first wife on a small issue,while the second wife was left as he didnt give her time and money. He was 13 years older to me (to us he told 10) He belonged to a different religious sect and most importantly, he had rejected me in his family months ago! Now this was an extremely confusing thing for me. His family didnt know he had been planning for wedding etc! Three months time came crashing on me..all those lovey dovey things, outings, family meetings etc..I cudnt just think beyond that and within that time frame, he was still looking for better options! He left me for two purposes..1) I was not very wealthy 2) He came to know that I didnt belong to a weak family background because what he had been doing to his wives in the past, he planned to do so with me and too and knowing that my family would burn his bones, he decided to step back. There are so many other things I am not saying here but in short, 15 days now and I am still in a state of shock. He had himself registered at all leading matrimonial aunties and the one who proposed this guy to me, fought so badly when I rejected him. She went to the extent of saying that I will never get married and will stay alone cz I rejected such an eligible bachelor! She even told him to lure me with wealth so I might change my mind at that time! My family offered shukrane k nawafil that I had been saved before time..plus I came to know it was their family business. Had I not fought with him that night and ended up things, I would have never known and all the truth came from his own family member. He had not told his family what he sued to do here! He pretended to be so much in love with me and there he use dto go and say oh this girl is too sticky and chipku bla bla bla! He lied about his ex wife being so ugly while I saw her picture in his inbox she was much more prettier than me and moreover the SON WAS HIS OWN! and not adopted!
The reason for sharing this is to let people know that please be aware of whomever you meet for wedding..try to know the family as much as possible to avoid such scams..I dunno why people play such games. Plus be aware of the rishte walis who try to hook girls with independent guys. This has become a business nowadays. Never go fro what they say..its money for them! May Allah keep everyone in His hifazat..ameen.
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You started another thread too, can we please titles instead of dots :D
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We need to have proper titles or we have to lock the threads (both of them)