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We should ALWAYS listen to our parents but to the extent of what is right and wrong. In regards to rishtas, that's a BIG part of your life. You will spend the rest of your life with that person and I believe it's not right for your parents to enforce that rishta on you unless you are 110% happy with it. If you like someone else then you should definitely let your parents know. In a Hadith it states that marriage should never be forced.
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Why not?
Parents can be wrong. Parents live their own lives. You have your own lives. Very few parents put them in your shoes to decide for you. Most parents depend on their own life's experience to plan things for their children. If your life pattern is same as any of your parents' then whatever that parent decide for your life based in his/her experience turns out to be good for you. But if you do not happen to repeat the history of the life of either of your parent then they cant plan things nicely for you. I mean they can plan in the best way but those may not turn out to be good for your own life cz your life is different than how was theirs or how they presume it is.
So, ask your parents what they base their decision on. If they tell you this and that (of their own life), see if you agree with them, see if that sounds close to your life and how things happen in your life. If you think it is a good idea, accept it, go for it. But if that makes you uncomfortable, do not accept. Tell them you are different and would like to plan differently for your life.
Phew! Did that all make sense?
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I'm actually a little confused.
Are you saying that you're worried about who your parents will pick for you?
Or worried that your parents want to get you married now?