to get married, especially In Pakistan, as soon as they see a single bloke, “scoreee” tie him with any durdana, farzana off the street.. so annoying!!!
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It can be but the idea is to take everything in life as a challenge that allows you to experience something new. If they are forcing you to get married, lay down the law.
Or just go around meeting different chicks. Consider it a learning experience.
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I was here for a different reason which turned out to be so nasty - oh well that's a different story.. but like seriously, been sick and puking the whole time.... no seats are available for me to fly back.. durdana, farazanaz are the last thing on my mind..
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Ouch. Well if its your parents have a chat with them. If it is not your parents tell the rest to
Oh yeah don't puke on the PC and get better.
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Other day a friend was telling me the very same thing . Girls at least roo dhoo kay convey their point that guy is a jerk , but guys are usually like je joo app ke merzi . Thinking everything will be fine later on . Have seen happening to so many guys .
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Durdana? Yikes!
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oh my heart bleeds for men., who pretty much do whatever they please all their life. women-staying at home, looking after kids, giving up work, cooking cleaning, hassles from in laws or other women, pressure from girls parents if not married by 21, etc etcccccccccccccc
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^ i wld love to see those kinda women oe men who do everything as they please for tht matter
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you could have put shabana instead of durdana. durdana?
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phaleez. theyre not this shareef.
Other day a friend was telling me the very same thing . Girls at least roo dhoo kay convey their point that guy is a jerk , but guys are usually like je joo app ke merzi . Thinking everything will be fine later on . Have seen happening to so many guys .
and dont forget the guilt trip..I mean if a guy says no, then regardless of his reasons or his preferences or how bad of a match the lady was, he is this he is that.
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Oh poor you. The choices must be endless. I can understand your pain.
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And frikkin' heck. Find someone in the US. We're not that bad.
to get married, especially In Pakistan, as soon as they see a single bloke, "scoreee" tie him with any durdana, farzana off the street.. so annoying!!!!
it only happens with good guys.
if people are asking you to get married or they want they want their daughters to be your life partner then there is something good about you.
so maintain your humbleness otherwise you will outdated in no time cuz ALLAH SWT jis ko cheyee, jis waqt chayee kuch bhi bana sakta hai.
Oh poor you. The choices must be endless. I can understand your pain.
yup its tough being me.
I would have gone into specifics of why this is true because I have seen several people deal with it, but whats the use.
And frikkin' heck. Find someone in the US. We're not that bad.
I did :)
You know I am a very opinionated, outspoken feminist but I understand what you're saying. I have an older brother and he keeps getting introduced to girls left, right and centre! Initially he wasn't interested in getting married because he wanted to focus on his career. Now that he has established himself, he is making an effort to get to know these girls. But he just doesn't click with any!
He tells me the stuff girls talk about with him and I myself get shocked...and it's worse when the families are involved!! They start having expectations and invite you to a dawat right away! My mom has made it clear that she won't ever go to a dawat at any girl's place unless it's for baat pakki! How do you politely refuse the dawat because the girl hasn't made an effort to inform her parents that it hasn't worked out and there is no point in prolonging this matter!
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thanks for understanding,
my experience has been that someone close to my family was very hurt when my mother was not able to convince me to go for this lady's daughter, she was a kind lady and I held her in the highest regard, but I could not just marry someone because others thought she was a good match. terms between her and my mother, and her family and my family were never the same, she passed away disappointed in my mother and myself. while part of me says i have no blame and i did what was right and i cant help it if someone is going to choose to have expectations and be that upset if those expectations are not met. I still feel sad about what happened there and how strong terms between ppl were damaged.
another lady wanted to introduce me to someone, and how this girl and I would be a great match..and by that time i had met my wife and as my folks brought this one girl up, I told them about woomawn and showed pics etc, so they told her there was someone else in the picture. Now the interesting thing is that when in a few weeks to go my engagement/nikkah turned into a full shaddi, the same lady spread the rumour that we had changed the engagement ceremony into wedding because I had knocked the woomawn up. what kind of ghatiya zehniyat is that.
thats two of the extreme examples, there are others as well.
This is not about making some claim as being some catch where women were beating down the doors, but just that my experience has been that guys who dont pursue something because its not of interest to them, stuff is said about them, my friends experienced it, bros, to varying levels.
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i agree with wat X2 said ... there is always some bitter resentment everytime a guy says no ... or forget saying no ... everytime he just doesn't agree there is some resentment
another lady wanted to introduce me to someone, and how this girl and I would be a great match..and by that time i had met my wife and as my folks brought this one girl up, I told them about woomawn and showed pics etc, so they told her there was someone else in the picture. Now the interesting thing is that when in a few weeks to go my engagement/nikkah turned into a full shaddi, the same lady spread the rumour that we had changed the engagement ceremony into wedding because I had knocked the woomawn up. what kind of ghatiya zehniyat is that.
Why on earth do people do this?! It's not like a person is obligated to marry the first rishta potential that comes through the door.
It happens to girls too, I knew a girl who turned down a guy because she wanted to marry someone else. So, a couple of weeks before the wedding the jilted guy thought it would be a good idea to post a letter which gave explicit details about a relationship he had with the bride, of course it was completely made up. He posted it to the brides house, the grooms house and both their respective khandaan. Needless to say she was so upset but Alhumdulillah everyone saw him for the weirdo that he was and the wedding went ahead.
Seriously, people need to stop being so selfish and realise that vicious rumours like that can ruin peoples lives.
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Dude..
Truth is girls in Pakistan are Desparate.
When people think they see an innocent boy they can lure to thier will. And when he shows he has self-respect.
They cant take it.--Period