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Now I need to put the second sentence in my other thread which I took out. You gave me a reason to put it back.
P.S: My household budget has gone out of whack this month due to these graduation parties. 
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I can feel your pain.
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We desis excel in spending money to impress the people that we actually hate.
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We also excel in putting down others who want to celebrate something in their life....be it with a party or with friends and family
95% of my friends in college (who were desi) didn't attend their graduation ceremony because they thought it was too lame or something....good for them, that's their choice. but if someone wants to do something nice for themselves or someone else, they shouldn't be made to feel lame or materialistic or whtnot.
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Sara, it isn't as simple as that anymore. If it really were about the celebration than by all means, yes! Your child deserves a graduation party for all the years of hardwork. These days, it's all about competition...who has better food at the party, who has the best party favors and background music, which families came to which party, and how dumb that one kid is for not having made it to an Ivy League. I know this is a generalization, but I've personally experienced that attitude. I don't think the graduating kids feel like that though. It's the parents mostly.
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Well said. I could not say it better. :k:
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I dunno then....I have never been to a grad party nor have I known anyone who had one...like i said most of my friends didn't even go to their ceremony.
A few years back one of my good friend was graduating and I was thinking of surprising them with balloons and card and stuff, nothing big, but one of my friends shot that down as totally lame and stupid idea.
I'm talking about that kind of attitude....the ones who won't even do a pvt celebration at home with immediate family.
If the person themselves doesn't want to celebrate fine...but if they do, and all the people around them are calling them selfish and mateiralistic and what not...well...thats not fun is it
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But how is the guest doing anything different? Mirch you yourself say that you are paying a ton in gifts. Why? Because you don't want to "look bad." You feel you will be compared and are therefore spending accordingly, rather than spending what is in your means.
You wouldn't resent these parties so much if you weren't using the same kinds of reasoning.
Give what you can and have a good time, rather than resenting others' happy occasions and celebrations.
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But how is the guest doing anything different? Mirch you yourself say that you are paying a ton in gifts. Why? Because you don't want to "look bad." You feel you will be compared and are therefore spending accordingly, rather than spending what is in your means.
You wouldn't resent these parties so much if you weren't using the same kinds of reasoning.
Give what you can and have a good time, rather than resenting others' happy occasions and celebrations.
The thread is not about me resenting gift giving. I will open another thread for that. :D
For now I am ranting about celebrating this party with more fervor than it deserves. Did you ever see me rating about Shadi , valima , engagement , baby shower, thanks giving , birthday parties ?
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Nope. But I think in the US it's a bigger deal because there is also a sense that there is more than one way to lead a successful life. Most people get the high school degree. But the other milestones are different for everyone.
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I dunno then....I have never been to a grad party nor have I known anyone who had one...like i said most of my friends didn't even go to their ceremony.
A few years back one of my good friend was graduating and I was thinking of surprising them with balloons and card and stuff, nothing big, but one of my friends shot that down as totally lame and stupid idea. I'm talking about that kind of attitude....the ones who won't even do a pvt celebration at home with immediate family. If the person themselves doesn't want to celebrate fine...but if they do, and all the people around them are calling them selfish and mateiralistic and what not...well...thats not fun is it
I agree Sara. We're just looking it from another perspective. Like you said, the graduates are pretty cool about this stuff.
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Nope. But I think in the US it's a bigger deal because there is also a sense that there is more than one way to lead a successful life. Most people get the high school degree. But the other milestones are different for everyone.
Desi parents will aaq(exclude from their will) the kid who would stop at high school only or they will have a heart attack if the kid announces after high school that he/she is done with formal education and want to become a motor mechanic , trailer driver , waiter or waitress. :D
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hahhahaha "aaq" LOVE that word.
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Desi parents will aaq(exclude from their will) the kid who would stop at high school only or they will have a heart attack if the kid announces after high school that he/she is done with formal education and want to become a motor mechanic , trailer driver , waiter or waitress. :D
maiN ne bhi yehii sunaa hai magar kabhii kisii baap ko aulaad ko aaq karte nahiiN dekhaa magar maiN yahaN yeh kahnaa chaahuuNgaa k yeh tarz e amal Ghair Islamii hai. Islam meN har rishte, har Haq kii Hurmat aayii hai aur aulaad ke Haq kii Hurmat bhii is islaamii qaanoon se vaazeH hotii hai k islam meN goad lene [adoption] kii ijaazat nahiiN kiuN k is amal se aulaad kaa Haq viraasat ke Hawaale se maaraa jaayegaa. **maaN baap ko koi Haq nahiiN pahoNchtaa k vo kisii aulaad ko aaq karne kii vasee'at kareN aur agar koi aisaa kar bhii de to uskii Islaamii qaanoonii Haisiyat na hogii.***Islam safeguard's everyone's rights of inheritance. Allaho Akbar.*
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Aray mairay bhai main to mazaq kar rah hoon aap nay to lamba lecture he day dala aaq k mozoo per. :D
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maiN ne bhi yehii sunaa hai magar kabhii kisii baap ko aulaad ko aaq karte nahiiN dekhaa magar maiN yahaN yeh kahnaa chaahuuNgaa k yeh tarz e amal Ghair Islamii hai. Islam meN har rishte, har Haq kii Hurmat aayii hai aur aulaad ke Haq kii Hurmat bhii is islaamii qaanoon se vaazeH hotii hai k islam meN goad lene [adoption] kii ijaazat nahiiN kiuN k is amal se aulaad kaa Haq viraasat ke Hawaale se maaraa jaayegaa. **maaN baap ko koi Haq nahiiN pahoNchtaa k vo kisii aulaad ko aaq karne kii vasee'at kareN aur agar koi aisaa kar bhii de to uskii Islaamii qaanoonii Haisiyat na hogii.***Islam safeguard's everyone's rights of inheritance. Allaho Akbar.*
jazakAllah khair fakhta bhai.
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Aray mairay bhai main to mazaq kar rah hoon aap nay to lamba lecture he day dala aaq k mozoo per. :D
are nahiiN Huzoor e waalaa...meraa roo siyaah jo hadaf-e-suKhan aapkii taraf rahaa ho**...Allah na kare.
maiN ne to bas yeh chaahaa thaa k jinko pataa nahiiN unko is baat kaa pataa chal jaaye k Islam meN 'aaq karne kii ijaazat nahiiN...sorry! :(**
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jazakAllah khair fakhta bhai.
thankoo yaaraa :)
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Desi parents will aaq(exclude from their will) the kid who would stop at high school only or they will have a heart attack if the kid announces after high school that he/she is done with formal education and want to become a motor mechanic , trailer driver , waiter or waitress. :D
So I don't understand. You're okay with college graduation parties, masters graduation parties, phd parties?
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I think graduation party for bara jamat pass kid is ok in limited gathering.