Re: Too Blunt
I would simply start working on this bad habit. Everytime he says something rude, show him a way to word it better. He will learn eventually...just dont expect an overnight change.
Re: Too Blunt
tell him that he can call father "father" or he can call father "husband of my mother" both are true and choice is his.
Wrong choice of words/emotions makes right thing look wrong.
My husband is blunt + tactless, OMG… horrible combination 
He has definitely changed… it just took over 5 years of samjhaana, like every time he would be tactless or blunt (in the wrong kid of situation of course) I would talk to him when we had privacy and tell him how that could have been said in a better way, or how that could hurt the other person’s feelings. I think it has worked a bit (or maybe I’ve grown immune 
)
He is still blunt/tactless but the degree is much lower than it used to be.
Re: Too Blunt
i dont see WHY people continuously talk about changing their husbands/men. they are not babies. and most likely they will remain the way they are. by the time they are getting married they should have matured and changed themselves. if they haven't they clearly don't get it.
Re: Too Blunt
^Yes they are, they definitely ARE babies :p
You're not married yet, right?
Re: Too Blunt
examples?/
If hes rude/blunt depends to whom, your parents? his parents? elders? , or if hes just blunt to you, as in oh today your hair looks crap, go comb it...that kinda blunt?? or just batameez blunt...all depends...
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mia-- ^haha nope, u must know more
but i think im sort of trying to say...men should stop being treated as babies? desi moms need to stop spoiling them.
Holy Cow!
Hey guys,
Im a newbie, have been a passive reader of paklinks for a long time but now i am facing a dilemma and need advice from both male and female perspectives
I recently got engaged to a wonderful guy & im really happy Alhumdulillah, however, i feel my fiance is too blunt sometimes and doesnt really consider the impact of his words on others
Now im not an overly sensitive person, but i dont know how to handle the situation when hes blunt with his words to me, it can be hurtful at times, he says hes not one to keep silent when he doesnt agree with something, however there has to be a better way to get your point across right...???
All views & opinions appreciated
Ask him to express his honest opinion with respect towards your emotions. It means not using harsh terms, using "I feel" vs. "You did blah" when expressing disagreement or upset.
It takes work and effort. But it is WORTH it. I wouldn't want to live my entire life with someone who wouldn't pay attention to how his words affect me. So, it is worth it to work on that bit.
I would simply start working on this bad habit. Everytime he says something rude, show him a way to word it better. He will learn eventually...just dont expect an overnight change.
Yeah, like Reha and MIAinVA said, tell him later how he could have worded something better.
just stop talking to him..that should do the trick
Re: Too Blunt
try to be blunt with him sometime .. 
.. it will hurt him .. .. he will argue and then you can point out that you did on purpose just to make him realize that it hurts you as well ..
Try at your own risk