my nearlt 2 yr old now screams her head off throws fits and just screams hysterically over anything, and anything. if she wants something, she needs to have it, and i dnt know how to deal with it. i actally want to slap her then. i try to stop myself. but its gut wrencing the way she screams. how to deal with it…?
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I think some children are more stubborn than others and beating is no way going to sort out the problem, in fact it has negative effects too,
try to divert her mind with love, show her something else which is interesting for her :)
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My daughter has started doing the same. At first I didn't know what to do as she was such a sweet kid before. Now I know when a fit is coming and I "act" busy. My kid always looks at me to see my reaction to her tantrums ... I just don't react. I don't even look at her. Just let her scream and kick and roll around on the floor until she calms down. Which she does fairly quickly now :D
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thing is, you must be living alone with just husband. i have flaMING extended brigade with me. if i ignore her, it wont work. fil, mil, bil allllll rushhhhhhhhhhh over to save my 20 month old toddler from her dushman mum.....really irritates me, im trying to teach her something and they will ignore my parenting and rush her off into their arms and cannoodle her and give her a biscuit/sweet/whatever .
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^discuss with your husband maybe it'll help?
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thing is, you must be living alone with just husband. i have flaMING extended brigade with me. if i ignore her, it wont work. fil, mil, bil allllll rushhhhhhhhhhh over to save my 20 month old toddler from her dushman mum.....really irritates me, im trying to teach her something and they will ignore my parenting and rush her off into their arms and cannoodle her and give her a biscuit/sweet/whatever .
If you want good for for little one, don't try to teach her anything...
This is what, Chacha (uncle), Phooph (Aunt), Daada, Daadi ( Grand Ma and Pa) are for, they always condole the crying baby, if you cooperate with them and do not live in state-of-war all the time, the kid won't be having any such problems... or if these problems comes up the elders can deal with them in better way...
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The issue with letting them do as they please is that once bacha Bigar jata hai, they lay the blame on the mom's shoulder :p
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^^ they have already raised a kid which you or your parent have found good enough for you to spend your life with, now someone who have not been through such experience, is telling me that they will spoil the kid...wow
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If you want good for for little one, don't try to teach her anything...
This is what, Chacha (uncle), Phooph (Aunt), Daada, Daadi ( Grand Ma and Pa) are for, they always condole the crying baby, if you cooperate with them and do not live in state-of-war all the time, the kid won't be having any such problems... or if these problems comes up the elders can deal with them in better way...
That's not always the case.
It's not the grandparents job to parent the kid. It's the parents job. The parents decide how they want to raise THEIR kid!!! If the kid is getting out of control and her mom is concerned and worried about it her inlaws should help HER out and not baby and pamper the kid as much.
It is HER baby, she carried her for 9 months, gave birth to her. She should be the one who decides how this child gets raised, not her inlaws.
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I don't know any grandparents that treat their grandchildren the same way they treated their own children.
I have seen even the strictest, harshest parents who close to abused their own kids (not exaggerating), then go on to spoil their grandkids rotten... sometimes I think it's just to punish their own children further by making the grandkids hard to handle.
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^^ they have already raised a kid which you or your parent have found good enough for you to spend your life with, now someone who have not been through such experience, is telling me that they will spoil the kid...wow
There is a hell lot of difference between bringing up own children and bringing up grand children. Grandparents spoil kids period.
Nadz talk to your husband or RATIONALLY explain to in laws. I feel your pain.
Re: toddler tantrums.
There is a hell lot of difference between bringing up own children and bringing up grand children. Grandparents spoil kids period.
Nadz talk to your husband or RATIONALLY explain to in laws. I feel your pain.
I don't know any grandparents that treat their grandchildren the same way they treated their own children.
I have seen even the strictest, harshest parents who close to abused their own kids (not exaggerating), then go on to spoil their grandkids rotten... sometimes I think it's just to punish their own children further by making the grandkids hard to handle.
I feel sorry for those who have missed the love and spoiling from their grand-parents, specially from the father side... often seen that these kind of kids have a boring childhood and they intend to give the same to their young ones...
what should the grand-parents do, hate the kid??? the wasted and spoiled DILs, who hate or dislike or consider their In-laws as burden on earth and complain about them all the time can never imagine the kind of help and assistance they can offer in the up-bringing of the little demon in the house, in case of OP two of them, let he handle both alone with her working husband for 2 or 3 months, as they say in Urdu, Atay Daal ka bhaóo maloom ho jaye ga, and would be looking for the nurseries and school who can take the kids away from her even if it is for few hours...
It is a normal observation that the kids grown with the help of Grand Parents are more confident and are normally aware of basic things which the so-called busy moms cannot even imagine to teach their kids... they teach the basic of their religion, the alphabets, the Kalima the, counting and many more other other things, not to mention the love they put into the kids....
Here i remember my grand parents, i use to hide behind them whenever i do wrong everytime they supported and protected me from the rage of my parents yet taught me to fix my mistakes and i believe this i could have not learned without them.. parents are blessing and grand parents icing on the cake... but yeah, our DILs can't like them because they remember once how her MIL never offered her mango shake or how once she told her to correct her attitdue...
Feel sorry for the parents who get such SIL and DILs...