To Veil Or Not To Veil/Letter to Oprah

The Oprah Show did an introduction of Islam on October 5, 2001, which was called Islam 101. Oprah, whose program is broadcast to most of the world, wanted to introduce Islam to the American public. “Since our world was horribly shaken three weeks ago,” she told her viewers, “all eyes have focused on a part of the world and a set of beliefs that many of us know very little about. We’re told that terrorism violates the teachings of Islam, but what is Islam? Who are Muslims? What are their practices?”

This was promising. Moreover, Oprah was friendly and open to what Muslims, who constituted the majority of the audience during that show, had to say. Even the expert she had asked to the show, anthropologist Akbar Ahmed, was Muslim. But did we discuss the meaning of being Muslim, or the problem of violence, or even the rage caused by American foreign policy in the region? No, the Muslim audience had more pressing things to discuss. The show proved to be a mirror of our intellectual bankruptcy, a mirror of our true obsessions and fixations, because after a quick discussion of what Islam was about, the show veered off to discuss women in Islam, particularly the dress code. The “after show” segment, which the program puts daily on its website after the live recording in the studio, was entirely about “Hijab.” This was both insightful and disheartening. It seemed that the gender question in Islam had become the central issue and what Muslim women wear the core of the debate on Islam, both internally and externally. It was disgraceful to see how our contemporary discourse as "modern Muslims” has become so focused on the scarf at the expense of the real paradigms that define Islam, its history and its universal values.

It is truly sad to see a certain culturally and historically specific edict with controversial roots and implications–becoming the raison d’être for contemporary Muslims while the larger parameters of Islam and its challenges are rendered into obscure shadows in the background.

In a pervious show, a woman from Oprah’s audience, asked if Muslim women could take off their scarves, at least until things calmed down. Oprah had to apologize in this show for that question after a big amount of mail from Muslims was sent to her (When did Muslims start writing so much mail? If it is about the Hijab, I guess, we will write). But, Oprah did not have to apologize for something the very religious establishment in the Middle East had raised in the last few weeks. This was a legitimate question, although it was received with hostility, even when it came from Imams in the form of affirmative fatwas in the larger community, published in Al Majalah magazine a couple of weeks ago-- allowing women to remove their scarves in the wake of recent events.

I understand Muslim women’s sensitivity regarding the recent fatwas or the question on Oprah’s show. They feel this is who they are and they are not about to quit when the going gets tough. They perhaps even feel somewhat betrayed by such fatwas, since wearing the Hijab has not always been easy anyway in a society which has equated it with gender oppression and fanaticism. But for Muslim women living in North America, keeping the Hijab in the current crises has also represented a spirit of defiance against racism and ignorance. This shows the contextual nature of Hijab, which could be a symbol of oppression or courage and independence, depending on the circumstances. In fact, an American women organization called for American women to cover their hair on October 8th as a sign of solidarity and protest against racial harassment.

Nevertheless, it is obvious that the scholars acted out of concern and open mindedness. But I also find it interesting how, for the first time since the Hijab has become central to our identity in the last few decades, the scholars suddenly realized the relativity and conditional nature of the verses dealing with covering, and the principles of recognition and safety implied in them. --In the case of early Islam, free women were asked to cover to be distinguished from slave women while slave women were not allowed to. I do not think the well-meaning Muslim women in Oprah’s audience knew anything about this or even wanted it aired in front of Oprah.

I have always hesitated to discuss the issue of Hijab in public, or its controversial historical roots I had come across in my reading of classical Islamic texts for fear of falling into the same hole of centralizing this marginal edict of Islam. I also did not want to associate myself with an issue that I consider marginal, yet so sensitive to the entire Ummah. In fact, I adopted a culturally specific code of dress for myself. I cover in Muslim circles and the Middle East and do not in the West. If I do otherwise, I will put too much time into having to explain why I am not wearing it or why I am wearing it, depending on where I am. By adopting a chameleonic way of dressing, --and not a chameleon character-- I have reduced the amount of time and energy spent discussing the scarf while creating a different context to discuss things other than what I am wearing. I also did this because, while I believe in modesty, I do not define myself through the scarf, nor shy away from it. It is simply a way of dressing that can be beautiful, empowering and protective but also, at times, limiting, misleading and impractical. In addition, I felt, by discussing the juristic and historical facts, which informed my decision, I would be digging out some trivial nuance while invoking tremendous opposition from the community.

But after the Oprah Show last Friday I was so disturbed that I realized this issue, at least regarding its centrality in our contemporary discourse, has to be questioned. Muslim women are still forming their identities and no one should have the final word on how we should come to terms with being Muslim in this age.

It was interesting to see the Muslim women in Oprah’s audience appeal to the ideals of pluralism and civil liberties in defense of their visibility and difference. However, when Queen Rania of Jordan appeared via satellite, there was a murmur in the audience and some of the Muslim women said that the Queen should be covered. Is it possible that Muslims think it is acceptable to use civil liberties to practice their truth, but if given the power to decide, they will coerce others to wear and do what Muslims want? These kinds of questions are far more pressing. We have to create internal debates about liberties, democracy and the need for various efforts of interpretation within the Muslim communities. Such debates should replace the non-issues of dress codes and small edict matters in mainstream Muslim communities.

We can no longer afford to have the scarf as the core of the debate on Islam, nor as the symbol by which the level of a Muslim woman’s piety or commitment to Islam is measured. We can no longer afford to have every opportunity and discussion about Islam turn into a conversation on dressing, nor can we afford as Muslim women, in our communities, to be judged and awarded degrees and ranks of religiosity according to the level of the dress code we abide by. The darker the color the better, the bigger the garment the more pious. The race of ranking morally high through fabric has no end in a path where the Taliban model seems to be the only logical conclusion. It makes more sense to judge women on matters relating to the basic tenets of Islam: regular prayer, fasting, paying alms. But even such things were not acceptable to the Prophet as criteria for assessing a person. When one of his companions praised another companion, the Prophet said to him it was not enough to see him going up and down in prayer at the Mosque. The Prophet asked him: Have you traveled with him? Have you seen him angry? Have you dealt with him in matters of money?

When people are not noble enough to resort to the Prophetic method of assessing a person, I try to bring them back to the basic requirements, without getting lost in juristic and historical details, by citing the story of the Bedouin man who came to the Prophet and asked him what makes a good Muslim. The Prophet then listed for him the five tenets of Islam, while the Bedouin was saying, at each tenet, he would do it, but would not do more, nor less. After the Bedouin left, the Prophet said, “The Bedouin will succeed if he is truthful.”

Interestingly, an African American woman in the “after show” segment asked precisely about this, how the list of the basic commands and prohibitions of Islam, which the show presented at the beginning, did not deal with the scarf, and I guess for her, did not reflect the level of Muslims’ obsession with it. But it is not enough to have such questions thrown at us from others. Muslim women need to start thinking for themselves and learn the difference between a command and what a social practice open to different interpretations.

The challenge, however, is that most Muslim women are not equipped to stand up and provide an alternative juristic view of the matter, and the scholars who do are not willing to discuss it in public out of concerns of inflaming Muslim sensitivities about an issue which they, and rightly so, believe is not a pressing one. Even those who are brave enough to dissent like Jamal Al-Banna face rejection and opposition from mainstream Muslims, despite being a scholar whose views are rooted within traditional Islam.

The centrality of the scarf reduces Islam to a piece of garment and places Muslims perpetually on the defensive explanatory panel. De-centralizing and de-romanticizing the scarf, I am afraid, is fast becoming increasingly urgent and necessary. The recent fatwas are revealing. The scholars would not ask Muslim women or men, to compromise easily in something they believed to be a core command of Islam. The events of the last week have, it seems, started to urge us to rethink our priorities and what defines being Muslim. This is in itself a big step.

Howe

The Oprah Show did an introduction of Islam on October 5, 2001, which was called Islam 101. Oprah, whose program is broadcast to most of the world, wanted to introduce Islam to the American public. “Since our world was horribly shaken three weeks ago,” she told her viewers, “all eyes have focused on a part of the world and a set of beliefs that many of us know very little about. We’re told that terrorism violates the teachings of Islam, but what is Islam? Who are Muslims? What are their practices?”

This was promising. Moreover, Oprah was friendly and open to what Muslims, who constituted the majority of the audience during that show, had to say. Even the expert she had asked to the show, anthropologist Akbar Ahmed, was Muslim. But did we discuss the meaning of being Muslim, or the problem of violence, or even the rage caused by American foreign policy in the region? No, the Muslim audience had more pressing things to discuss. The show proved to be a mirror of our intellectual bankruptcy, a mirror of our true obsessions and fixations, because after a quick discussion of what Islam was about, the show veered off to discuss women in Islam, particularly the dress code. The “after show” segment, which the program puts daily on its website after the live recording in the studio, was entirely about “Hijab.” This was both insightful and disheartening. It seemed that the gender question in Islam had become the central issue and what Muslim women wear the core of the debate on Islam, both internally and externally. It was disgraceful to see how our contemporary discourse as "modern Muslims” has become so focused on the scarf at the expense of the real paradigms that define Islam, its history and its universal values.

It is truly sad to see a certain culturally and historically specific edict with controversial roots and implications–becoming the raison d’être for contemporary Muslims while the larger parameters of Islam and its challenges are rendered into obscure shadows in the background.

In a pervious show, a woman from Oprah’s audience, asked if Muslim women could take off their scarves, at least until things calmed down. Oprah had to apologize in this show for that question after a big amount of mail from Muslims was sent to her (When did Muslims start writing so much mail? If it is about the Hijab, I guess, we will write). But, Oprah did not have to apologize for something the very religious establishment in the Middle East had raised in the last few weeks. This was a legitimate question, although it was received with hostility, even when it came from Imams in the form of affirmative fatwas in the larger community, published in Al Majalah magazine a couple of weeks ago-- allowing women to remove their scarves in the wake of recent events.

I understand Muslim women’s sensitivity regarding the recent fatwas or the question on Oprah’s show. They feel this is who they are and they are not about to quit when the going gets tough. They perhaps even feel somewhat betrayed by such fatwas, since wearing the Hijab has not always been easy anyway in a society which has equated it with gender oppression and fanaticism. But for Muslim women living in North America, keeping the Hijab in the current crises has also represented a spirit of defiance against racism and ignorance. This shows the contextual nature of Hijab, which could be a symbol of oppression or courage and independence, depending on the circumstances. In fact, an American women organization called for American women to cover their hair on October 8th as a sign of solidarity and protest against racial harassment.

Nevertheless, it is obvious that the scholars acted out of concern and open mindedness. But I also find it interesting how, for the first time since the Hijab has become central to our identity in the last few decades, the scholars suddenly realized the relativity and conditional nature of the verses dealing with covering, and the principles of recognition and safety implied in them. --In the case of early Islam, free women were asked to cover to be distinguished from slave women while slave women were not allowed to. I do not think the well-meaning Muslim women in Oprah’s audience knew anything about this or even wanted it aired in front of Oprah.

I have always hesitated to discuss the issue of Hijab in public, or its controversial historical roots I had come across in my reading of classical Islamic texts for fear of falling into the same hole of centralizing this marginal edict of Islam. I also did not want to associate myself with an issue that I consider marginal, yet so sensitive to the entire Ummah. In fact, I adopted a culturally specific code of dress for myself. I cover in Muslim circles and the Middle East and do not in the West. If I do otherwise, I will put too much time into having to explain why I am not wearing it or why I am wearing it, depending on where I am. By adopting a chameleonic way of dressing, --and not a chameleon character-- I have reduced the amount of time and energy spent discussing the scarf while creating a different context to discuss things other than what I am wearing. I also did this because, while I believe in modesty, I do not define myself through the scarf, nor shy away from it. It is simply a way of dressing that can be beautiful, empowering and protective but also, at times, limiting, misleading and impractical. In addition, I felt, by discussing the juristic and historical facts, which informed my decision, I would be digging out some trivial nuance while invoking tremendous opposition from the community.

But after the Oprah Show last Friday I was so disturbed that I realized this issue, at least regarding its centrality in our contemporary discourse, has to be questioned. Muslim women are still forming their identities and no one should have the final word on how we should come to terms with being Muslim in this age.

It was interesting to see the Muslim women in Oprah’s audience appeal to the ideals of pluralism and civil liberties in defense of their visibility and difference. However, when Queen Rania of Jordan appeared via satellite, there was a murmur in the audience and some of the Muslim women said that the Queen should be covered. Is it possible that Muslims think it is acceptable to use civil liberties to practice their truth, but if given the power to decide, they will coerce others to wear and do what Muslims want? These kinds of questions are far more pressing. We have to create internal debates about liberties, democracy and the need for various efforts of interpretation within the Muslim communities. Such debates should replace the non-issues of dress codes and small edict matters in mainstream Muslim communities.

We can no longer afford to have the scarf as the core of the debate on Islam, nor as the symbol by which the level of a Muslim woman’s piety or commitment to Islam is measured. We can no longer afford to have every opportunity and discussion about Islam turn into a conversation on dressing, nor can we afford as Muslim women, in our communities, to be judged and awarded degrees and ranks of religiosity according to the level of the dress code we abide by. The darker the color the better, the bigger the garment the more pious. The race of ranking morally high through fabric has no end in a path where the Taliban model seems to be the only logical conclusion. It makes more sense to judge women on matters relating to the basic tenets of Islam: regular prayer, fasting, paying alms. But even such things were not acceptable to the Prophet as criteria for assessing a person. When one of his companions praised another companion, the Prophet said to him it was not enough to see him going up and down in prayer at the Mosque. The Prophet asked him: Have you traveled with him? Have you seen him angry? Have you dealt with him in matters of money?

When people are not noble enough to resort to the Prophetic method of assessing a person, I try to bring them back to the basic requirements, without getting lost in juristic and historical details, by citing the story of the Bedouin man who came to the Prophet and asked him what makes a good Muslim. The Prophet then listed for him the five tenets of Islam, while the Bedouin was saying, at each tenet, he would do it, but would not do more, nor less. After the Bedouin left, the Prophet said, “The Bedouin will succeed if he is truthful.”

Interestingly, an African American woman in the “after show” segment asked precisely about this, how the list of the basic commands and prohibitions of Islam, which the show presented at the beginning, did not deal with the scarf, and I guess for her, did not reflect the level of Muslims’ obsession with it. But it is not enough to have such questions thrown at us from others. Muslim women need to start thinking for themselves and learn the difference between a command and what a social practice open to different interpretations.

The challenge, however, is that most Muslim women are not equipped to stand up and provide an alternative juristic view of the matter, and the scholars who do are not willing to discuss it in public out of concerns of inflaming Muslim sensitivities about an issue which they, and rightly so, believe is not a pressing one. Even those who are brave enough to dissent like Jamal Al-Banna face rejection and opposition from mainstream Muslims, despite being a scholar whose views are rooted within traditional Islam.

The centrality of the scarf reduces Islam to a piece of garment and places Muslims perpetually on the defensive explanatory panel. De-centralizing and de-romanticizing the scarf, I am afraid, is fast becoming increasingly urgent and necessary. The recent fatwas are revealing. The scholars would not ask Muslim women or men, to compromise easily in something they believed to be a core command of Islam. The events of the last week have, it seems, started to urge us to rethink our priorities and what defines being Muslim. This is in itself a big step.

However, for the moment, until those who are politically and juristically mature and sophisticated want to discuss this matter openly without getting bogged down by the many implications and problems it will raise, we will remain hostage to the centrality of the scarf. And until something is done, we will be stuck with the rosy and romanticized views of the sweet Muslim ladies on Oprah’s show and forever caught up in the centrality of the scarf.

For eternity the question will not be for us, Muslims, why our young men are turning themselves and others into bombs, or why we do not have democracy in Muslim societies, or whether American foreign policy is based on principles of equality and liberty for all. The question will be, it seems, for a long time: To veil or not to veil.

ver, for the moment, until those who are politically and juristically mature and sophisticated want to discuss this matter openly without getting bogged down by the many implications and problems it will raise, we will remain hostage to the centrality of the scarf. And until something is done, we will be stuck with the rosy and romanticized views of the sweet Muslim ladies on Oprah’s show and forever caught up in the centrality of the scarf.

For eternity the question will not be for us, Muslims, why our young men are turning themselves and others into bombs, or why we do not have democracy in Muslim societies, or whether American foreign policy is based on principles of equality and liberty for all. The question will be, it seems, for a long time: To veil or not to veil.

Re: To Veil Or Not To Veil, That Is The Question

And you expect people to read such long cut-paste?

Re: To Veil Or Not To Veil, That Is The Question

I read it and my question why strong willed muslim women are scared to discuss about their hijab to non muslim women.

Its part of islam why you compromising with them you not asking them to take off their make up so why should they ask you to take hijab off ridiculous if they don't like it thats there problem not yours.

Re: To Veil Or Not To Veil, That Is The Question

To Veil Or Not To Veil, That Is The Question?

i think muslim women should not veil after all what will west think.
now a days when i switch on TV to watch any Pakistani channal i confused my self that i am watching pakistani tv or indian tv.

Re: To Veil Or Not To Veil, That Is The Question

Pakistan channel is not islamic channel that is why the women are not veiling for whatever reason they no wearing i don’t know i will let allah(swt) be the judge on them.

And it is not up to you or me to decide if muslim women have to wear the hijab it is up to allah(swt)

A letter to Oprah

Dear Oprah,

We are writing you this letter in response to your show on women around the
world, in which there was a lady from Saudi Arabia who was abused by her
husband and you addressed the rights and freedom of women in Islam. We
believe that you are in a very influential position to clarify stereotypes
and misconceptions about the Middle East and we are writing this letter
because we have the utmost respect for you and really believe that your
intentions were positive. However, as we are sure you and your producers are
aware, Saudi women are not the only battered women and Rania al-Baz was more
a representative of a battered women from anywhere around the world – there
are women also in America as well as China who are abused and battered- and
it was unfortunate to link it with her being a Saudi and a Muslim.

There is a serious misconception in the West about Islam as a religion, and
the cultural practices in some countries that are predominantly Muslim. We
think it would be extremely educational for your audience to learn a bit
more about the rights of women in Islam, which is in fact one of the most
liberating religions for women, however through the media it has been
portrayed as quite the opposite - primarily due to a lack of understanding
and political interest in maintaining an "enemy" in order to justify
America's foreign policy with regards to the Middle East. It is a similar
brainwashing of the masses as with the negative portrayal of African
Americans in order to maintain slavery and dominance in the past. There are
two distinct issues that we would like to address; the first being the
negative portrayal of Saudi Arabian Culture, and secondly, the link of these
cultural practices to Islam.

Let us first address the Saudi Arabian culture. There is no denying that
some of the practices in countries like Saudi Arabia do indeed seem bizarre
to the Western world, however we can look at Western practices and also view
them as bizarre and immoral. There is a famous anthropological article
written in 1956 by Horace Miner entitled "Body Ritual Among the Nacirema",
which discusses how the Nacirema people are so obsessed with their physical
appearance that "they have extensive mouth rituals... the women bake their
heads in small ovens for about an hour... and the men scrap and lacerate
their faces with sharp instruments." The author of this article was
describing North Americans and the primary message was to demonstrate that
you can make any culture seem bizarre if you are looking at it as an
outsider.

Most international cultural practices will differ from those in your home
country. Different races have different traditions and as we have
experienced over human evolution, that unfamiliarity breeds contempt. If we
were to go back 40 years to the sixties, and imagine there was a famous talk
show host, such as yourself, who had a show on different races with the aim
of 'familiarizing Americans on what other people
live like', the Caucasians were happy go lucky, but the African Americans
were portrayed as dirty, immoral and barbaric. How would you have felt?
Would you not have thought that it was a false accusation? That of course
there are some African Americans who are dirty, immoral and barbaric, but is
that message representative of the majority? Does that message help bring
peace to the world? Or does it reinforce negative stereotypes that result in
discrimination, racism, oppression and violence? We would have expected your
show to dig deeper into the different cultures and explain why certain
traditions exist, in order to increase awareness and understanding, to
explain the unknown, and to truly break down barriers between Arabs and
Americans. The question 'why?' was never asked on your show.
To give you another example of Middle Eastern way of living is our lives. We
come from the Sultanate of Oman, a neighbouring country of Saudi Arabia,
where the entire Omani population is Muslim. In Oman we have female
Ministers, female ambassadors, female Directors of mutli-billion dollar
businesses in addition to full time mothers, engineers and bankers. If we
compare the way of life
in Oman to Saudi Arabia it is quite different, however, we are still Arabs,
and still Muslims.

The second point we would like to make, which is that we must differentiate
between culture and religion. For some reason, Western media has decided
that Muslims and Arabs are one and the same, regardless of the fact that
according to CNN Islam is the fastest growing religion. One would question
why this would be the case, why are so many people embracing Islam if it is
a religion of terrorists who oppress women? The reason is because most of
the people who convert do their homework, and learn to differentiate between
Islam and some poor practices of individuals. In particular for females,
through their homework, they come to realize that Islam is one of the most
liberating religions to have ever existed for humanity, and it explicitly
values femininity and the female. If we look at thousands of years of
history from the Ancient Chinese, Hindus, Pharaohs, Babylonians, Assyrians,
Pagans, Romans, Persians, Jews, Christians and current Western
Civilization - there is certifiable evidence that none of these
civilizations or religions respected and protected women to the same extent
as Islam does. This is because Islam recognized all of the oppressing
behaviors of prior religions and civilizations and prescribed rules in order
to abolish them. Furthermore, Islam is a religion for all time and its
content is relevant to all generations, those of the past, the current and
the future, as the human instinct does not change with time.

To give you a brief overview of some of the rights of women in Islam: 1. The
rights of a wife - In order for a marriage to be valid in Islam, a man must
first provide the woman with a wedding gift called the "mahr" which should
be cash and could additionally include property, jewellery and clothing.
This gift is to ensure that the woman is financially secure regardless of
divorce. Even if they divorce the day after they consummate the marriage the
gift is for her to keep.

Furthermore, a husband is obliged in Islam to financially provide for his
wife and cover ALL household and clothing bills for his family. If he does
not do so it is considered a sin. In return the wife is obliged to take care
of his children and be intimate with him. She is not obliged to cook, clean
and stay at home, it is her choice to do so if she wishes. In Islam there
are 5 core goals that a husband and wife should strive for in their
marriage:

  1. Tranquillity, 2. Affection, 3. Mercy, 4. To protect and give comfort (the direct translation is to be each other's clothing) and 5.

To have and raise children. Everything that a husband and wife do in a
marriage should have these goals in mind - therefore, physical abuse does
not comply with mercy, adultery and arguing does not comply with
tranquility, abstaining from sex and ignoring one another does not comply
with being affectionate. And of course the most controversial topic of all,
polygamy does not comply with 3 of them, in fact, in Islam it is made clear
to man that he can have up to four wives under certain conditions and only
after he gets permission from his wife. Even if she agrees, he MUST treat
them equally in all aspects - emotionally, financially, physically, which
for a human is impossible and Islam recognizes this impossibility and says
that those men who cannot fulfill that criteria will be punished –therefore
discouraging polygamy as opposed to encouraging it.

Furthermore, a woman is not obliged to marry anyone she doesn't want to and
the Sheikh (religious man) asks for her consent before conducting the
wedding ceremony. In addition a woman in Islam does not take the name of her
husband, but retains her own name and identity, and this is symbolic of the
marriage in that it is a joining of two individuals who come together to
enhance each others lives and not to become one.

  1. The rights of women in divorce- There are clear rules with regards to
    divorce, conditions in which it is allowed, what the process is and the
    rights of the woman who is divorced. Most of these rules are there to
    protect the woman. An example is that a man who wants to divorce his wife
    has to leave the house and he cannot kick her out, it is her choice if she
    wishes to remain in the residence

  2. Financial independence - Any money that a woman earns in her employment
    or inheritance is hers and she is not obliged to pay or contribute a cent to
    her husband or parents, it is her choice if she wants to lighten their
    financial load. If she financially
    contributes she is granted blessings from God, but if a man requests her to
    financially contribute he has committed a sin.

  3. Inheritance rights of a woman- In Islam inheritance rights are stipulated
    in great detail in order to avoid arguments and disappointments.
    Furthermore, it is the first religion to clearly state the inheritance
    rights of women. This is in order to ensure her financial security. If we
    look at the UK just over a century ago women were kicked out of their homes
    upon the death of their fathers or husbands and were not allowed to inherit.
    Islam prescribed these rules to protect her over 1400 years ago.

  4. Mothers in Islam- Motherhood is seen as one of the most important roles
    of humans and mothers are given great importance and respect. In fact the
    Prophet says that "paradise is under the feet of mothers". Children are
    obliged to show the utmost respect for their parents. In fact in Islam it
    says that first you must show respect and obedience to God, secondly his
    Prophet, thirdly the mother, fourth the mother, fifth the mother, sixth the
    father.

  5. The Hijab (headscarf)- Women in Islam are seen as jewels that should not
    be exploited for the satisfaction of men. The Islamic dress code demands
    respect and preserves your self worth. It is in fact an interesting
    dichotomy that in the West the headscarf is seen as an oppression of women
    and we find it liberation of women. In Islam, a woman has many different
    dimensions to her all of which have a time and place. When she is in an
    intimate relationship with her husband she is obviously sexual and hence her
    beautiful and seductive attributes are exposed, but there is no need for her
    to be sexy anywhere else. At work or in public she is viewed to have
    integrity, a mind, a voice, it is her soul which is displayed to the world
    as that is what they should be focusing on, not her sexuality. Perhaps it is
    a very simplistic way at looking at life, but we all joke that men can't
    multitask, and if they see a sexy woman they will certainly be thinking of
    one thing, instead of focussing on what she is actually there for, to work,
    to contribute, to think, to converse with.

The Islamic dress code simplifies interaction between males and females and
makes it clear what your purpose is through your dress. The dress code is
also significantly correlated to the self esteem of a women. When a woman
dresses modestly in public there is no confusion as to whether she is given
attention or opportunities because or her rights and capabilities or because
of her sex appeal. Therefore the primary purpose of the Islamic female dress
is to ensure that woman are not seen sexual objects to be
exploited or manipulated into believing that their only value comes from
their sexuality.

  1. The value of female capabilities as opposed to trying to be like a man-
    On a spiritual level men and women are considered equal, however on a
    physical level there is a difference between them and their strengths and
    weaknesses. In Islam a man and a woman are two different entities that have
    been created to complement one another. Both should be equally valued. The
    prime focus is that a woman does not need to behave like a man to be
    successful, worthy or valued. If she chooses to she could, but why would she
    want to? She has her own strengths and capabilities and
    that is what makes her valuable. Furthermore, men should also not behave
    like women. In Islam, a woman is not restricted to what type of job or role
    she can take on, but she is asked to give priority to being a mother if she
    has been blessed with children to ensure that her children receive the love
    and nurturing that they require.

  2. Education- The first word of the Quran brought down to the Prophet
    Mohammed (peace be upon him) was 'Read!'. Education, reading, acquiring
    knowledge, travel and exploring and appreciating what the world has to offer
    is one of the fundamental values in Islam, and its importance is
    demonstrated by being the first thing that God communicated of the Quran.
    All Muslims are required to educate themselves regardless of being male or
    female, in fact the Prophet emphasised that women have a right to education.

  3. The story of Adam and Eve. In the biblical story of Adam and Eve, Eve is
    portrayed as the temptress, who tempted Adam to eat the apple and hence they
    were expelled from heaven. In Islam, the story is quite different and
    symbolic. It states that they both ate from the apple, neither tempted the
    other and hence were equally guilty.

Above are just a few items we thought we should highlight, there are dozens
or rules and examples in Islam that demonstrate the liberation and
importance of women and one could write many volumes. Of course in practice,
not all of these rules are applied all the time. Similarly, just because you
are a Christian or a Jew, doesn't mean you won't lie, steal or kill. But
there is a major distinction between the religion of Islam and the
implementation of the religion by humans. It seems as though the media only
focuses on poor implementation, but never looks at what is really expected
of Muslims. It never focuses on the people or groups of people who correctly
implement Islam. What was most disappointing about your show is that you
reinforced this negative stereotype, when the purpose of that show was to
create awareness. We truly believe that you had no negative intentions, and
that it was either a miscommunication or a lack of education, hence we have
written this letter to help you see a side that is rarely exposed in Western
media.

For the many years of watching your show, we have seen that your goal is to
try to help people, improve and change lives, a very noble cause, and we
have seen that you have already had shows on Islam and on Muslim women,
however this must be a continuous positive process, and one negative
statement about Islam can nullify all the positive messages previously
communicated. We believe that your help in clarifying some of the
misconceptions about the Middle East and Islam will help spread peace and
understanding across the world instead of perpetuate hatred and
misunderstanding. If you are interested, we could arrange some speakers for
you on the topic to help clarify some of the misconceptions, we could write
an article for your magazine or even make a short documentary with the aim
of clarifying misconceptions. It would be a pity for so many people to be
left in the dark and it would be unfortunate if you did not share these
learnings with your audience. Like you said on your show, you believe that
peace will probably come through the work of women, let us turn that into a
reality.

Re: A letter to Oprah

i doubt u'll get much feedback from oprah here