To those who wore hijab before marriage..

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Did you let your husband-to-be see your hair before nikah?

What were your reasons (you think hair colour, style should make no real difference, you believe Islamically you can’t etc)?

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no,neither I let him,nor he asked for it !

reason : that was not allowed islamically.

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No I didn't simply because we weren't married.

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Err i did. But thats cos he's already seen pics of me without hijab. And because he wanted to see and I didn't mind cos only he would see it anyways. I'm not trying to justify it cos obv islamically its' wrong, but I only showed him a couple of times.

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^Actually, contrary to the popular belief for the purpose of marriage if the guy requests it the girl CAN show her hair.

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^ Huh? I thought he is only allowed to see her face, hands and feet. :konfused:

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I personally don't feel comfortable with the idea either BUT I recently heard a lecture and that's what was mentioned. I always thought that it was only face, hands and feet as well.

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you raise good question. islamically, guy and gal should look each other so if they find attraction can proceed further, but i m not sure about hair.

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I'd just like to point out, that before a non-hijabi and a guy gets married, there's not really an issue raised of the girl being told to wear a hijab so he can't see her hair. It really does depend on whether you decide to follow islamic rules or cultural. Its not as black and white as that, fair enough, but I still think it's really up to the girl to decide

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I wouldn't.

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i did. it didn't really matter to me. he would come over at our place and my parents would be around, so i felt comfortable enough. when we went out i would cover it though.

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Hmmm... I wasn't aware of that..

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Maybe I shouldn't have said it like that because I have only heard it from one scholar.

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if you can party n date...why not show hair? wats so 'wronger' in that??

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who said you can party and date?

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In front of him or in a party?

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I have heard the same. If the intention is to marry then it's allowed for a woman to show her potential husband her hair. But this should all take place with presence of a third person and not alone.

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ya bcose if the guy see your hair when your alone together he could get distracted by your beauty and try and touch you or something.

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It's just not about hair..before marriage the potential couple should meet but with someone else too in the same room. They can communicate. get to know each other and share views etc.

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that sorta guy would need a leash i guess..