To the Guys: Question

[shahidanwar]

Re: To the Guys: Question

@Sasha21

Omg what if the single girls on GS read this. We’re going to be back on the drawing board with that whole deal about why don’t the divorced ppl stick to their (diseased) kind.
Before someone misreads and starts bashing me, the word in the paranthesis is sarcastic.

I think i must be the rebellious kind who does not follow the rules. I might be considered a bad example. I don’t get the whole same people stick to the same type of people concept. If there is a single Pakistani boy and girl at the party just because they’re Pakistani and of same age doesn’t mean they’d make a good match. Similarly just because 2 people went through the traumatic event of divorce does not mean they’ll bond better than someone who hasn’t. It’s like saying someone who experienced a similar natural disaster would always bond better than someone who hasn’t. Sometimes opposites attract and it’s good to be with someone who hasn’t been through all that. It’s all about matching more on the inside than outside.

As for people considering them “diseased” surely a divorced person is less “diseased” than someone who has had past non-marital relationships or number of rishta related interactions. At least they married and had a commitment compared to the person who just had the relationship. So why should a single married person, who has had involved interactions with opposite gender, feel superior to someone who is divorced/widowed?