A very good friend of mine is happily married with children. We do socialize as couples too and invite eachother for dawats, etc.
He has disclosed to me that he is cheating. Not on a regular basis and not with some permanent "girlfriend" but one off one night stands while he travels out of town.
He is otherwise a very "caring" and responsible husband and father.
I meet his wife during family gatherings and I feel so bad for her sometimes. I think she needs to be told of her hubby's shannanigans.
I have tried talking to my friend so he stops cheating on his wife but he has laughed it off. If I continue pestering him he will stop sharing his secrets with me. So I have just turned into a "good listener".
If I disclose it to his wife, then ofcourse our friendship will end and honestly I am not too worried about that. What worries me is that his wife will dump his butt and that's not something I want to start.
Any thoguhts?
PS. please no lecture on how much of a sleazebag this guy is. I know that.
Your friend "laughs it off" when you try to reason with him???? This shows that he does not "care" about his wife at all.
Guys like this throw a hissy fit and start screaming "talaq talaq talaq" when they find out that their wife is sleeping around on them. The double-standards and hypocrisy are unbelievable.
Funguy............if your own sister was in this situation.........wouldn't you want her to know the truth so that she can spend the rest of her life with dignity and with someone who loves her sincerely? If YOU were in her shoes.......wouldn't you want to know if your wife is cheating on you?
If this guy is cheating.......then maybe there is something lacking in his marriage. But that is not justification to cheating. If you have issues with your spouse.......talk to them about it to fix the marriage.........don't have an affair.
Have you read the thread created by Anjana a few months ago? She had posted that her Khala is divorcing her husband becuase he was having an extramarital affiar and contracted HIV. She never saw it coming because she assumed that their marriage was a healthy and happy one.
Life is unpredictable, anything can happen. What if this sleazebag picks up an STD from one of his one-night stands and passes it to his wife. Does that innocent and dedicated woman deserve to live the rest of her life medicating herself for some nasty virus passed on to her?
It is clear that you don't value the friendship you have with this douchbag because it's clear you no longer have respect for him.
Do the right thing..............inform the wife somehow. She has the right to know. Her health and her future is being toyed with. And her committment and time and efforts are being secretly mocked by her husband.