To stay with old parents or move away?

[Shokha]

Re: To stay with old parents or move away?

Sorry guys for late reply…

@Maham

1. I suppose your brothers must be adults since they are married. So don’t tell me that they dont have the guts to tell their wife what they are suppose to be doing. 2) No women has the himat to tell her husband not to stay with his family or not to support them. If she does, you gotta be a man enough to shut her up and put her at her place. 3) Your brothers may not want to stay with their parents cuz of their wives but they can atleast send money to support them.

hehehe… the wifes do have the guts to tell and putthing her at place/shutting her up didn’t work either… things did go very bad with this particular ‘wife’ that it almost ended their marriage…

as far as sharing money goes…i thought you would know better how women today think…they can’t tolerate their husbands money going anywhere else…they do obviously chip in a bit but not enough…

@Southie

There could be another factor that you may not be sharing with us. Hence let me ask this question -Is it possible there is some fear of the unknown inside of you? Hence are you reluctant to leave Pakistan to go to an unknown place, where you may be lonely? If that is one of the drivers, you may want to ask yourself some tough questions re: whether you can handle it in another country. My gut feeling is you will do fine wherever you go, since you seem to think through everything before making hasty moves.

Well…i will share it with you…i have not been a big fan of going abroad and living outside of pakistan…i did spend my teen years (3-4 years) outside pakistan and i know what kind of life that is…

I never wanted to go abroad but the economic realities are forcing me to consider that option too…hence my question here…

I was inclined to think that i should try it first in pakistan and try to make things work here…and if it doesn’t work out then consider moving out…islamic concept of ‘Rizq’ also come into play…that you will get what has been written for you…that makes me think i should give a try here…

so what you people think about it?