To stay with old parents or move away?

[Shokha]

Re: To stay with old parents or move away?

@Reha

I will get some tomatoes thrown at me for this but here goes:

In order for you to be there for your parents, you have to be strong also. If staying with them means more financial struggle for them or you for an indefinite period of time…then dont stay.

Go, work hard for a couple of years, build a good base for yourself and then you’ll be in a great position to help them for the rest of their lives. I know it will be hard for them and it will tear you apart to not be there all the time…but what else can you do? Stay in Pak and try to struggle?

sorry i didn’t understand what you are trying to say…

@Mabrook

i don’t know where u r planning to go but just in canada it takes 4-5 yr in average to sponsor parents these days.( at age 60 who knows wat will happen in 5 yrs) and they don’t always get extended visit visas either. yes if u go middle east then u can call them earlier. so may be pick a place where u all can either apply at same time and go together or u can later call them easily. meanwhile arrange someone a caregiver or relative to stay with them and look after them. u can even giv incentive to one of ur brother/bhabi if they look after ur parents for the period of ur absence u will sponsor them later( or sponsor one of their growing kids) or send them a specific amount etc.

I am not in financial stable career position as yet…so i am not sure whether/when i will get a good job abroad or not…