To say or not to say?

[KKF]

Re: To say or not to say?

@redvelvet

She doesn’t have to be a doormat. She doesn’t have to bend over backwards. But if she treats them exactly the way that they treat her…un dono main koi faraq nahi rahay ga. Also, it’s not worth straining her marriage. She can reduce her niceness…be a bit tougher so she’s not taken advantage off and still remain civil while doing so. I don’t advocate being nasty or cold to the in-laws and stooping to that level. Most likely they will just harden toward her; it won’t make them wake up and realize their mistakes. It’ll just start a back and forth cycle of badtameezi/revenge between both parties. Also, places her husband…who should be heloing to bridge the gap if ge isn’t…in a tricky situation. Door tak k consequences ko dekhna chahiye not just the option that provides immediate relief but long term headaches. :rollseyes:

i’m always on the side of women because i feel that it’s always women who are asked by the society [in unspoken words] to sacrifice, to give-in, to make compromise, to tolerate, to bear the inflictions/abuses by husbands, brothers, fathers and society at large including in-laws. would a man/in-laws/society at large be expected to do the same in favor of women…the answer is NO! so, why women be subjected to second class citizenry?

i hate heavy handedness in relationships on women by men, in-laws/society, and will never accept it, bear it or counsel in it’s favor.