Re: To say or not to say
Relationships are and should remain private. They’re between two individuals, not your whole family. I think people in our culture tend to run to their elders too quickly when there are problems, however small. Husband and wife should (where possible) sit down and talk things through. Where this isn’t possible, yes other more learned family members should n consulted.
I would never disclose private details of mine and hubby to be relationship when we are married because its just that - private. Some women get too carried away when they’re in their group of friends or with female relatives. You don’t need to tell them everything for goodness sakes!
But for some girls (and even guys) I understand that there is often the need to speak to someone else about the relationship, for example where the spouses are disagreeing on something or can’t come to a decision on something due to cultural differences. The third party may even help by making you see things from another point of view.