if that is the case, then make sure you are vocal about it with you family and let them know you aren’t interested and that’s the end of it. Please, do not accept her just or the sake of your family if you really don’t want it.
OP, if you’ve made your decision then you will just have to stick to it and ride out your family’s disapproval. At some point they will stop complaining and will move on (I hope).
Mom has finally conceded that even she feels that the girls silent, aloof, timid and scared nature is a put off and is a huge sign of concern. In fact she went on to add that she feels even more comfortable that the mother is the most talkative among them but the husband, kids are all very quite and given her experience as a medical doctor, this is actually a sign of depression. Overall she felt that there is a lot more that meets the eye and there is a reason why they have persisted for 6 long years with us.
So the good news is now my parents are finally conceeding to my objections. With my mothers concerns and second thoughts, my dad will naturally fall in line.
The bigger problem will by my grandmother. She is going to through a huge fit and resort to massive emotional blackmailing behind the scenes given that her wishes were not respected and inspite of me being her favorite grandson, i am going to have to brace myself for some really nasty insults and criticism from her now in that once again i have the delusions of acquiring a supermodel and have rejected a shareef, gharelu, quite, pyaari housewife.
Doesn’t seem like depression, she’s probably autistic like you.
some old people can be really unpleasant and manipulative, a much older friend (ex- consultant psychiatrist of the Elderly) once told me we often presume as we age, we gradually become more wiser, wholesome, understanding, affectionate and benign, but often things go totally in different direction.