^ I couldn't help laugh at the stupidity of that story. Women are not helping themselves for themselves by adopting that kind of attitude.
I know a person who was being beaten by her husband and in-laws. Her brother found out, went round there, gave the husband and father-in-law and THOROUGHLY GOOD BEATING and took his sister away from there. After some days the girl's husband came back begging for his wife to return. Her brother allowed it on the condition that she is never beaten again or he will burn their house down with them in it (I don't think he was being literal). Since then they have treated her properly.
Moral of the story - stand up for others who are being mistreated.
I can't imagine my husband refusing to help his sister. I would make sure we did something. So what if it ends in divorce? The other option (a lifetime of physical and mental abuse) is far worse.
i know of a lady whose husband beat her, her mother in law also beat her once when she was pregnant. the lady's brother did nohing as far as i know. they were all related too. maybe thats why he did nothing, but its no excuse of course.
its a hypothetical situation: your SIL (nand) is beaten by his husband next door, and your husband dont wana involve in their matter.
so how many of you will force your husband to do something?
or stand up yourself to help her?
and would u consider that If you or your husband helping her out ends up in divorce, how far you gonna help her?
ps. i do acknowledge that in Pakistan and also even abroad girls often dont get to study beyond grade 12/FSc. and under any such circumstances all the responsilbities comes down to their brothers or any other male guardian (chacha, mammo etc).
Definitely I would do everything I can to help her and for my husband to help her. I could never never turn my back on her knowing she is being abused!!!!!!! And I would be very much disgusted if my husband would ever even CONSIDER not doing anything to help
I guess I am trying to find out what situation the brother is in.
There are many situations that later become awkward and relationship break, once there is NO relationship equation, then it's all about "feeling" guilty within but cannot do anything....
(not that I know of any relations in such situation... but just guessing).
^ well then why only involve brother. cuz the man who is beating his wife, may also be the brother of some other woman.
so how can we say that he only beats up his wife, and not his sister? and may be he has no emotions for his sister. and may be he is abusive by nature. hence there are several possibilities.
but when we say "auret he auret ki dushman hai, then why not she can also save em from the animal in a shape of men aswell"
If I or any of my sisters were being abused by our husbands (God forbid), and my brother turned a blind eye, I'd cut him off - no need for an extra sorry ass excuse of a man.
If I or any of my sisters were being abused by our husbands (God forbid), and my brother turned a blind eye, I'd cut him off - no need for an extra sorry ass excuse of a man.
hm, why doing this to brother, why not to the husband?
after all kamzoor ko to her koe dabata hai. its like husband treating his wife bad, and in returns sister treats his brother bad.
is this a fight against mankind, or against one person?
What the ****? So a brother listens to his sister being bashed and he doesn't want to interfere? What kind of F*d up sub culture is this?
I am a man so may be not welcome to comment on this, i have seen both sides of.
There is no way would allow someone (even husband to beat our sisters, i do not need my wife to tell me this).
Our sisters gone through rough patches with ILs only can come out successfully due to family support. On other side we also need to make sure too much support might not rock the boat.
SIL got into trouble with whole world, including her husband. The guy is real bs....rd, and my wife is her favorite shoulder to cry on.
SIL refused to stays with her husband, and seeking way out of marriage. Naturally we want to solve her problem without a divorce.
Nothing was working, till i realized that due to our so called "unconditional" support she in no mode to compromise. Finally i made it know to her that we are no longer supporting her at her condition.
Resulting although she was angry with us, but within few days patched up with husband and living him now.