Hmmmmm nops, if he's taking care of me and his kids well and all our legitimate needs then I really don't care what he does with the rest of his money. It's his to begin with, surely I have rights on his money but so does the rest of his family
It is not 'his" when you are married, it becomes "our", if both people are sensible, they will sit together layout their expenses/needs/priorities and make a budget. That budget should include how much money they can afford to send back home or what are their needs.
Well if she's working only to keep busy and make extra money for savings or luxuries while the husband's job supports the family....then why can't she do that?
For sure, she is allowed to do that but my point was that If husband has got extra money then he should also be free to spend his money wherever he likes and this also includes supporting parents.
I wouldn't say he needs permission but I agree with everyone when they say the wife should be aware of what's going on. What of the girl was sending money to her parents on the sly? Apparently the girls parents in our society have no 'haqq' (I'm talking about girls who earn money and who may not have brothers).
The double standards astound me.
I totally agree with the household income being split into a fair ratio, just not guys tiptoeing around their partners, it could lead to all sorts of trust issues and would not be a viable solution long term. She is going to find out one day, and that's the day the dog house becomes your new home :)
when a woman is making money she says "this is my money and i use it wherever i want". So why a guy cant do the same ?
Yes, I agree that some women are like that, but on the same hand, some men tell a woman they can't spend any money because he is the one with the job. Just because some people do that, does not mean we all do.