How do you know in a particular situation when to keep trying and when it’s time to let go? Like you can’t force something that you want badly to happen except in career goals.
Fine line between desperation and a passion to want things to happen right? Desperation in love can screw us up.
Is it only with love relationships that you should let go of something because eventually you realize it can’t happen? How do you know if it’s meant to be?
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You don't know.
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Come on give me something more than you don't know. Desperation and passion, when do you draw the line so passion to get something doesn't turn to desperation.
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There is no right answer for it. Different for different people.
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When passion becomes obsession and starts affecting you in a negative/unhealthy way or when it influences other areas of life, then it's time to reflect at the way you are approaching the goal.
I'm not saying give up but maybe take a break, change the route/strategy of approaching it. If still unsuccessful, leave things as they are, if it's meant to be it will be and at its appropriate time.
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Only difference b/w desperation and a passion is that in desperation, person is thinking more about consequences for not having the thing and in passion, person is thinking more about what will it be after having it.
As for when is the time to let go? its when your passion (or desperation) is hurting/messing the thing its self.
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The passion or this serious need to see him and his face, the way he looks at me, I think that look would make any woman feel drop dead gorgeous, that did help me feel good and it seriously brought out the most wonderful change in me. I was dead inside before but then after I started to see him and talk to him I feel like i’m on top the world in his presence. It’s like how prayer feels for someone, a total and beautiful connection with Allah. I feel the same way when I see him. But I’m a bit older than him, we’re of different subcultures, and language so there are quite a few cons. Now i’m in a dilemma of whether I could completely cut contact and move on or give him my phone number and see where this goes. It feels like it has an 85-90% failure rate. Staying practical and moving on just doesn’t appeal to me right now for fear of losing an opportunity.
He’s just so special that I just can’t imagine not being able to see him again or of seeing him look at anothe woman like that. He can sense how I feel and bring out positive emotions in me just by smiling. Other men just disappear in the background. If we’re in public and we’re talking with others, if I peak at what he’s doing he looks back at me in the most beautiful way…
from what you’ve said here, it’s passion and not desperation. I’m alone and I love it and if it doesn’t work out i’ll be really down but I can hold out til another mr. incredible comes along but being alone is not the reason i’m thinking of pursuing it. He just makes me feel incredible and I haven’t felt that type of connection on a higher level with any man when I look at him. He even did a certification in my professional field because I told him about how much I love it and he got a job so we’ve effected and brought out big, great changes in each other. I just don’t know how serious he is or whether he’s a closeted player
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Me giving him my phone number because he asked for it is desperation? Desi women aren't so forward. There's so much painful, unstable risk in love. Plus what if he's trying to take advantage of me. It's best to stay away? The expression on his face is so genuine though but then again there are people that can fake that too.
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why dont you tell us what you really want us to tell you about. this is like "guess what number i am thinking of".
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What is your current interaction with him? Friends, strictly professional, acquaintances?
If you are so into him, and feel for him this deeply, that he lights up your whole world, etc. then give it a try and give him your number to at least ascertain what he feels for you and get to know him better. Sometimes glances, and smiles are read into much more than the face value. Either way you run the risk of getting hurt, but that's just how it rolls. You'll know you at least tried.
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Why don't you go for it? Is age the only thing stopping you, or you worry about the fact he might be a 'player'? Neither sound like big problems to me to be honest. For me I stay away from girls, even those I've fancied in the past, because I know it can't work out or because it's not the right time, or because I simply don't want to.
Seems like you have something good with this guy. I think you should give it a shot.
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Then go for it, what have you got to lose?
Sometimes unexpected happens :)
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always know when to walk away