Re: To initiate to improve relations.
^ Dangerous
@ Dushwari sister.
Hmm...deep reasoning. Thanks for sharing :)
When anyone gives us pain, we must try to remain positive by thinking that it might not be his fault, (unless s/he makes it VERY clear to us by disclosing his/her intentions to be negative)...I am saying this because alot of times the devil persuades us to think negatively whereas actually we might not be aware of the truth. In some cases Allah might have chosen him to test our patience just to see if we still behave as a true gentleman by "forgiving and forgeting" only for the sake of Allah (swt). I am sure in most cases that person would realize his mistake and appreciate our sacrifices and sincrity. BUT that doesn't mean that we should emotionally torture ourselves till the time he is not ready to listen and is being rude to us. We must be satisfied and contented after our "Level best" efforts and wait calmly for the time when he would realizes his mistake.(With the grace and blessings of Allah)
In case of our blood relationships I think it was our Ultimate Lord who chose them as our relatives. So we can do our best and leave the rest to Allah. Ofcourse Allah is watching us all the time and would reward us on the basis of our intentions.