Re: To help a friend monetarily
^Okay, so this guy has been “good” to you…and does being “good” in return necessitate bailing him out all the time? How is that going to help him out in the long run? Does it help his pride? No. It only provides him short-term peace of mind and then in the back of his head he’ll be worrying about how to pay you guys back (even though you refused it). My mom says it’s difficult for a person to put their hands before another and ask for money…but at the same time…I’ve seen how the asking can potentially become a habit and that’s not healthy either. What this guy needs is a long-term job with better financial security. And sometimes being a “good” friend/person means setting boundaries that can allow the other person to become more independent and live in dignity. Help him out if you can afford it, but be firm as well. And although you don’t live in the UK…see if you can get your Uncle to help him find something more stable and away from the Slimeballs.
I like your logic. Asking for help only when truly in need is what I expect from friends/family. I don’t think being enabler helps anyone in this process - I’m going to talk to him to see whats going on.