To help a friend monetarily

[pak-one]

Re: To help a friend monetarily

@redvelvet

I wonder if your uncle can get something that’s more stable and long-term. Does his wife work? Have you asked him if he has any savings? Just asking him these questions…(along with how his brother/family is helping him)…and you can ask nicely…can make him uneasy enough to work on becoming more financially independent and not bug you in the future. It’s like giving him a hint that you don’t feel comfortable with helping him out all the time. And it can’t be good or even easy for him either…it’s humiliating for one to ask for money. If you can help him out this time…then do so…but ask him some questions. And there’s no gunnah in making excuses or refusing in the future…if you’ve helped him out enough already.

So here is the thing: He is absolutely brilliant with people, speaks fluent English with British accent, knows his numbers well but is illiterate. As in, can’t read contracts or do things that involve reading english. So my uncle has been able to get him jobs where he is a contractor in construction, helped him with management jobs..but he is limited by the lack of english knowledge. His wife is a traditional Pakistani women from the village, she sews clothes at home, can barely speak urdu properly. He has no savings.

I agree on the izzat, I mean one of the reasons why I am talking about this here is because I can’t talk with my uncle/parents who I KNOW will take a strong stand against helping him.

As I mentioned, he does work for his brothers takeaways and when I say work, I mean he does everything from mopping to cooking,when the employees are out/brother needs help, it is a full time job for him. Plus he does handyman/contracting stuff whenever he gets a job or two.