Most desi muslim guys, when asked, say that they do NOT like girls who go clubbing, wear “revealing” clothes, drink, date etc. YET the same guys have no problem being friends with/hanging out with the type of girls that they claim they don’t like. They only date girls who’re like that. I see it all around at my Uni. And many of these girls have no problem being “physical” with guys who are “just friends”. Why is that?
And with many guys, girls who’re traditional, don’t go clubbing, don’t date/drink/smoke etc. are “boring” “uptight” and “don’t know how to have fun”. Why is it that guys say that they like a certain type of girl, BUT make friends with/date the exact opposite?
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And with many guys, girls who're traditional, don't go clubbing, don't date/drink/smoke etc. are "boring" "uptight" and "don't know how to have fun". Why is it that guys say that they like a certain type of girl, BUT make friends with/date the exact opposite?**
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Why don't you ask them? And share the answers with us, I'd also be interested to know...
A good quastion!!!
I think its about giving a good image. I know some guys who do the same, but they only talk about ‘good stuff’ to people who they AND there family know. And the girls who they get 2’close’ with these girls do now know the family personal. So it actually about hiding it for the family. Its quite
If they wre allowed to habg out with girls they would have dont it. But since it is most of the time not allowed they do that with girls who the fam. doesnt know of.
( i think)
And with many guys, girls who're traditional, don't go clubbing, don't date/drink/smoke etc. are "boring" "uptight" and "don't know how to have fun". Why is it that guys say that they like a certain type of girl, BUT make friends with/date the exact opposite?**
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Here the guys who say such things dont study much. AT my uni f.e. there s only 1 guy who is dating a girl, the others have big plans to get married with a girl settle down and are good guys. And they NEVER get close with girls!!!
I hav’nt done that so I think its the comparison, they come across and then decide the later i.e choosing a life partner who is not so social butterfly.
Absoluetely true. At my university, there are so many cases where girls say they just want someone ‘nice’ and ‘decent’, go out with guys who are nothing like that, completely ignore the guys who are ‘nice’ and ‘decent’, and then actually have the nerve to complain when they find out their boyfriends aren’t ‘nice’ and ‘decent’.
All of which leads me to conclude that girls are confused creatures who should be avoided until you have to marry one
It's not just muslim guys, it's all guys that act like that.
For example, I'm a perfectly normal girl. I have a nice figure but I don't own any mini skirts or booty shorts, I don't go around rubbing and humping on guyfriends, and I've never been kissed. And for that reason guys don't pay too much attention to me in that sort of way. Instead they seem to all flock to this 'friend' of mine who comes to school half dressed wearing fishnet floozy stockings and bright neon push up bra that she insists on flashing every once in a while. She likes to rub on guys and portray sexual acts in school to EVERY GUY. Teachers don't mind because she does it to them too, and of course the guys don't mind. I don't blame the guys as they are poor helpless creatures who can't help it sometimes. I mean, when a girl flashes herself in front of you, sometimes you can't help but get hard. But getting guys attention isn't everything. I'm not gonna become like my 'friend' just to get some guy no matter how cute he is. Guys say "I'm not into girls like that." because they have to. I think maybe society expects them to. Sometimes it's hard to conform with society when your hormones say another thing. If they can't see a girl for who she is, behind the tube tops and hoochy garb, then who needs em.
Stephie, thanks for your post. I think that it's important to remember that there are women and men of all sorts in all societies and cultures. What is frowned upon as immoral or undesirable behaviour is very similar in most societies even if the details are different.
, now thats so incredibly not true. I would even call this insulting. I guess u are in some weird school or something, or have nutsys as class fellows.
I agree with Shirin and Armughal
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*now thats so incredibly not true. I would even call this insulting. I guess u are in some weird school or something, or have nutsys as class fellows.
I agree with Shirin and Armughal *
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Gomen nasai yo. I didn't mean all guys like all 2.5 billion of them. I meant all types of guys not just mulims.
Most of these guys are hypocrites , in that they like girls who go out and have fun, but would like to marry a girl who has never been out with anyone else.
Maybe they are afraid that their wife might start comapring them to other guys she has been out with?
I wonder what these guys will do if they saw their own sister out with other guys?