So my sister is married to my chachi’s brother, as weird as that might sound her in-laws are a complete annoyance!.. My dad and his brother(my chachu) don’t get along after the biggest argument ever after which all ties are broken… my chachu being younger yelled and blamed my dad of a gazzilion things concluding that he never meets us with heart and its always a majboori… and we being the kids dont feel like seeing him either anymore. Now in this situation my sister doesn’t know if she should go with her husband to his sister’s place or not…And the “argument” was ofcoarse ignited by the inlaws especially my chachi who is envious and jealous of my sister and has told her that she can’t ever take her brother away from her!! sheeshh…
Other annoying things they do apart from fueling my chachu with hatred towards his older brother who brought him up when he was 2!( their mother died really young) are the following:
crappy stuff they gave on the wedding : broken boxes, broken ring, old set brough 8 years ago, ugly colour clothes(shocking reds and blues) not even stiched and cheap material (btw they are fairly well off)…
Mentioning how ameer they are …and how many suits they gave! (who cares)
Never calling…blaming us for not letting our sister and her hubby alone…
on and on and on…
and they never get it! :@ even if we do try to talk to them they take in the sense of materialism…its not the things but the niat…the intention …
The two families are dragging the third one into a mess.
Your sister & her husband should set some boundaries regarding involvement in family matters and what sides to take or not to take as both the husband/wife have their own families involved in this as well.
At best they should keep away from all family politics for their own peace.
At the end of the day, your sister is married into the family and needs to make sure her life proceeds smoothly. If she doesn't go to his sister's place, then perhaps he will have issues going with her to her dad's place. It's best that she figure out what is right for them as a couple and worry about nothing else. Kids should always keep away from such issues, extended family politics are a quicksand of drama. Remain neutral, maintain a "no comment" stance about issues regarding the "fight" when she is there. It's better not to discuss this issue so much in front of the brother. I have seen kids build bridges between families when their parents burn them by their ikhlaq and good behaviour. She can play the role of a mediator once she has established her own good position in the family.
I think the situation is about materialism more then niat (from their side and yours) - what sort of advice are you looking for? whose wrong? should your sister be on your side or theirs?