So I need some insight into a rather uncomfortable situation I’m in:
Two of my cousins are getting married (to each other- its a love marriage) in about 1 month. The groom and I used to be quite close until some issues arose and basically things got ugly- he called me a number of very unflattering names and started blackmailing me saying he was going to tell the whole family about my ex (note- this cousin used to like me but when I told him I wasnt interested, 1 week later he was engaged to our other cousin by choice). Yes I have to see him frequetly a family gatherings but since our falling out 2-3months ago iv just ignored him.
So now the question is this:do I attend their wedding or not? My mom (who is aware of what’s happened) has left it to me but I don’t know what to do. What would you all do- would you go or not? Its complicated because the bride is also my cousin but I truly HATE the groom because he spread a lot of malicious rumours about me and is just a jerk. His mother is lovely though and so is the bride and her mom. If I dont go will it just be a black mark in the family forever? Also the whole family is not fully aware of what happend between me and him.
You need to go for sure....if you don't go he will feel that he has won or something.....just go there and smile at him......show him that you are past him n his actions and that you have moved on...
also if you don't go people will ask more questions n whatnot....
just Go ............and act as nothing happens ....wear a beautiful dress act as nothing is wrong wish both of them and eat ...dinner and come back home thats it............like a confident Lady ....:-)
but one thing why ur close to him bcuz usually when ur close with male friends or cousin there r issues.....
Ohhhh ArghhhhhhhhhhhhhhHHHH........o boy he mis understood and i feel k AP per kia guzari hogi after all this .....yes u really hate him ...thats wat he deserve ....but pls show him K USKA PALA KIS PRINCESS SE PARA and u really a princess then dress up and b a MACHO lolx ... takecare ....
I would look beautiful, be confident and make him see you're not pining away for him. If you do not go, he will think you are sitting at home, crying and cannot bear to see him with another woman.
Get him abducted. Khus kum jahan pak.
Why do you want to deprive yourself a chance to enjoy the wedding and show that jerk that you are happy and better off without him ? Reha above nailed it beautifully for you.
If I dont go will it just be a black mark in the family forever? Also the whole family is not fully aware of what happend between me and him.
Regardless of how you feel towards the groom, the above are 2 reasons as to why you MUST attend the wedding.
1) You don't want this to leave a bad mark on your family.
2) You don't want the whole family to become full aware of what happened. Your absence will definately raise questions from the family members who don't know what happened.
Definitely go i think. you also said that some of your relatives dont know what happened between you guys so if you dont go people will ask questions. go, and enjoy yourself :)