Re: to giveup or fight
Roshni: I think you should give up the fight. You already wrote that your MIL has refused to travel previously b/c she doesn’t like to travel/leave her house. I imagine your SIL’s in Uni/BIL in school also has their studies/their own social life. And if the 3 SILs are in UNI already, I imagine the search for rishtas has started already. Once those 3 are married, they won’t be travelling with your in-laws to Australia every year.
Not only should you give up the fight…you should actually support your husband’s decision to bring them to Australia to visit. Tell him how you have no problem with his family coming and will do everything in your power to make them feel at home once they’re in your home. BUT …Let your husband worry about convincing his mother to travel. You stay out of trying to convince your MIL to travel or anything else. Let your husband worry about EVERYTHING about their trip…from money to ALL the arrangements. If your husband wants to use his credit card…let him. But you need to also leave it up to him to pay it off. Save your earnings for your kids since that’s clearly not his top priority.
See where things are after their first or second trip. But for now, for the sake of your own mental peace, drop the fight.
Couldn’t agree more! Clearly your husband priority are diff then yours.
Letting him make the choices he wants is not a clever decision, but time will teach him a good lesson about just spending the money you actually have and not putting yourself in a big debt just to sponsor others whims.