My bhabhi once said that it takes 10 years for a couple to really learn and know everything about one another (actually she said for a wife to train her husband to be the husband she wanted :))
Agree? Disagree?
Do you agree that you can never truly know someone until you live with them and that no matter how long you date one another - life after living together is different?
For the marrieds - please tell about your experiences - the little idiosyncracies you discovered about your spouse after you got married.
Do you agree that you can never truly know someone until you live with them and that no matter how long you date one another - life after living together is different?
that is true.
Do I know my wife, I guess after 14 years - I can say I do but I am sure there are thing about her that I still dont know. Not that she is hiding those traits from me but they were never needed to be surfaced. Like I never saw her fighting with anyone, so I dont know what it takes to make her fight verbally or how she would do that if she has to.
Here is a nasshat from experience guy to all khilandray lerkey and kuriaan
Guy or Girl is like a THICK book composed of 10000s of pages. You make your decision to marry him/her on the basis of preface. Right after marriage starts the tedious process of reading every single page. Everyday you learn something new from new page of your parter. There will be good pages and there will be bad pages. If you try to rip off bad pages from the book, you will only destroy it.
lol @ train your husband... it goes both ways, both "train" each other and it takes a whole lifetime :p
As far as getting to know each other is concerned, yep..... you won't get to know what a person is like unless you live with them and it does take years.
My bhabhi once said that it takes 10 years for a couple to really learn and know everything about one another (actually she said for a wife to train her husband to be the husband she wanted :))
Agree? Disagree?
**Do you agree that you can never truly know someone until you live with them and that no matter how long you date one another - life after living together is different?
**For the marrieds - please tell about your experiences - the little idiosyncracies you discovered about your spouse after you got married.
I think that is very true. You never know someone until you live with them under a roof. I think it is one the things that really surprises the daylights out of naive lovemarriage-couple, because "ohhh we dated for +5 yrs and we should just know each other in and out"-bla bla... Wake up :D
the learning curve is for life......as new begins ,then children,death,and as you deal with everything your strength and weaknesses come out and the ability of the other person to cope with those weaknesses,
live life as a forgiving person selflessly and you will be happy not always fulfilled but happy...dont sweat the big stuff...it's the small niggles you have to learn to ignore
the learning curve is for life......as new begins ,then children,death,and as you deal with everything your strength and weaknesses come out and the ability of the other person to cope with those weaknesses,
live life as a forgiving person selflessly and you will be happy not always fulfilled but happy...dont sweat the big stuff...it's the small niggles you have to learn to ignore
I think, until unless u r not living wd some1 , u cant judge him/her…
so spending life is important then u will judge whether to modify urself or ur partner…
Our personalities aren't rigid. The parts that are set since you were 5 are not difficult to figure out about the other person (provided you look for it). But everything else has the potential to change as life goes on. We all change with time, so no, you really can't know someone completely at any point in their lives.
We learn, we grow, we let go of our good habits, we take on ineffective habits etc.
I think you learn things about each other as long as you are married. Added to that, you also evolve as people in terms of outlook, opinions, taste, interests, etc.
That being said, I dont think its possible to know everything about someone unless you have lived with them as a married couple. Its just not realistic to expect that - you set yourself up for failure. Even as boyfriend-girlfriend you dont learn as much as you do when you're married because you move as a unit rather than individual.
